ask more questions

Yesterday, i noticed an 18 year old asking such thoughtful and genuine questions. It all came so naturally it seemed. This kind of sense of belonging and connection that led him to feel confident enough to just relax into the conversation.

I am glad for him. I am “envious” of him for my own young man and for myself.

I am truly glad for him. It’s not so much enviousness as a sort of sadness.

Having this goal drew my attention to my conversational behaviour and I noticed that I already have the habit of asking a lot of questions – maybe it started with this goal :)
It was a helpful goal, especially in situations where I wasn’t sure whether to ask or not. I thought of it and did, mostly. It made me realise that asking really pays off. People are usually glad to be asked – it’s often the best way to show mindfulness – and there’s a lot to be learnt from the answers.
The next thing I’ll be paying attention to is asking questions in formal situations. It’s embarassing when questions can be asked at the end of a talk, but no one does. So, whenever I can think of a question, I’ll force myself to ask.

Not been focusing too much on this for a while as I have not had the head space….found this article which gives me some much needed revision of my questioning skills. Time to reflect i think.

http://www.changezone.co.uk/download/Powerful%20Questions%20that%20get%20Results%206.pdf

How, what ,when and where NOT why.

‘Why’ questions have their place of course, when you are trying to get at the root cause of actions in specific situations, but ‘why’ questions can feel like a judgement call.

For example, instead of asking the question: “Why did you do that?” ask “What were you trying to achieve when you did that?” or “How does asking that question help you ?

Before you ask a question, think about what you are trying to achieve with it.
The way to find powerful questions is to adopt a childlike curiosity and take nothing for
granted. This involves focusing on open questions to stimulate the release of deeper personal
insights.

of questions in the past few days. It’s this curiosity thing that keeps cropping up just lately! Great innit?

In class i was that kid too scared to ask any questions. i would get so paranoid about asking questions and interrupting. I would think it would be a stupid question and i shouldn’t even bother asking because i should already know. then the result of me not knowing would show up in my tests.

I’m practicing asking more questions for clarification. If fail to ask , I may disappoint, do things incorrectly, or not learn a valuable lesson. By asking, I expand my view and am open to more possibilities.

ask the right sort of questions.

I asked one today and someone thanked me for asking them!!

Why haven’t you joined the movement yet?!

http://www.43things.com/things/view/2099593/start-a-disco-golf-movement

Where did my last cheer go? I know I had one more left because I was saving it for something special. But now it went away. FUCK!