stop letting people walk all over me

I had a bad day then got mad, then the next day I let em’ have it! I felt so uncomfortable doing it but then I had results. I started my change it was a good start. One step at a time.

Well, I put a stop to all the crap this girl I used to be friends with has put me through. I finally cut the ties that enabled her to keep talking to me and making me continuously feel bad. I told her how I do not want to deal with this situation anymore and that if she can’t at least talk about what happened, then I don’t have anything else I need to say to her. So its finally done, and I don’t have to keep reliving everything over and over again now. She doesn’t have the power to keep making me feel bad anymore.

Where do you draw the line? When someone treats you unkind.When they make fun of you, or try to make you feel less? How do you let them know you don’t want to be treated that way anymore, with out looking crazy or losing your cool? Or being to timid? Or stooping to their level of snobbishness?
I want to scream….People great real! Don’t you have better things to do? I mean if I’m that low in scale of God’s creation then why must you spend so much energy on making me feel so bad? Then if I’m not worth giving respect,or not as amazing as you then why waste the time on petty thing such as I?

am a push over and let people walk over me but am not anymore woohoo

So, yeah I have a problem, it seems, with letting people walk all over me. During a typical day I certainly feel like I go out of my way to accommodate even the most insincere and demeaning individuals in my world. I agree that it does seem easier to simply be nice and understanding instead of spiteful or vengeful toward these types. But at the end of the day when I am unto myself I can’t help but find myself in wonder as to why those people would have said such things and acted like that. I live alone and work full time and no matter where I am I feel like I allow certain individuals to demean me for no reason. This is a dis-ease, but I know I am better than this. They are nothing but still I don’t tell them and instead of voicing my feelings I type them into an open window on a computer screen with hopes that some kind of realization might break me and my self destructive ways before its too late. I refuse to submit myself to dealing quick comebacks to these disillusioned fools as I will not stoop to their level. But as to what to do I am as lost as ever. All I know is that there are good people in this world and by reading some of your responses posted on this board I am evermore convinced. Good people get hurt and good people get let down and maybe these and the like are the only reasons that good people are around. I want to give out some props to all of you that have taken this chance to express how you feel here because I recognize this is a giant step toward telling it like it is in the real world. Peace and love

I went on a ski trip with a friend and her friend yesterday. She did so many bitchy things that went way beyond cutting her some slack. Her car batter died the night before. My boyfriend helped her jump her car. She didn’t seem that appreciative. During the drive, I gave her directions off my GPS which she totally ignored until we got lost. On the mountain, she was being very annoying. It was her second time snowboarding and she wasn’t very good. That’s not the problem but he attitude was just too much. She was quiet on the way home. We all sensed that so we kept quiet. No one said a word the whole 2-hour trip back even when she dropped us off. It was stupid since we just had a really good day of skiing and she had to ruin it because she’s the center of the universe. If anything we did was bothering her she could have said something other than being bitchy passive aggressive like this especialy when she pride herself for being straightforward and cutting through the crap unlike most girls.

I don’t like people who expect others to tend to their needs or feel like they can ruin others day like this. It is very childish and I’ve decided to stop enabling people like this. She’s done something like this before and apologize afterwards. I let it go before but I don’t appreciate being walked over like this. Why would I have to read her mood and cater to all the crap she needs… I need friends who are considered, who value the relationships, who may slip once in a while but would sincerely apologize hoping friends will forgive them rather than just expect them to.

Sometimes for me its easier to be nice to people than to be mean, In fact I think it takes more energy to be nasty rude or being miserable to people. Wasted energy. But I don’t know where to draw the line on being nice and being a push over?? It sounds really pathetic and maybe it is. But I want respect, everyone deserves respect. People who are mean to me have no reason at all to be. Just nasty. In all reality they should be nice to me, I understand pain and problems and emptiness in life . I could help, I could listen and be their friend. Instead the insult me, and belittle me. Such foolishness in my option. They could have a really nice thing in their life but the choose to be mean. I want the respect, I deserve respect. Besides don’t nice guys finish last???

i really hate it when people walk over me, but on the others hand its earlier to let people me. And i am a pleaser, i do just to make friends

BUt i need to stop this, it just making me angrier and painful inside, i know i can stand up for myself, i did it before :). But the thing is when is stand up for myself nothing is coming out of my mouth. When i’m at home i feel like a total bitch coz i stand up for myself and of course i feel save at home, its my shelter!!

all i need to courage and lots of confidence to face them, there these 3 ppl who really give me a hard time not to mansion my really close friend is with them, she really has a lot of friends.
my school HAS sooo much drama it crazy.

i don’t have any friends, i do but not a lot and i don’t hang with them. ok so it happened again in mandarin class, we were reading this passage this person name ‘Angel’ (fucking cut face) said something that i’ll feel happier if i live by yourself without your parents and you’ll have 10 hours eating with ur family. and everybody was like WTF. and i was like, who the hell eats 10 hours with their family, i don’t eat 10 hours with my family. and the fucking bitch face was like ‘well you don’t have a family haha…’
i was fucking pissed off dude i was about to punch her in the face, i could stand up for myself, but it was during lesson time. and the thing is i never talk to them. who do they think they are. and yeah the ANGLE person spreads shit about me, and they don’t even not me.
they only know one side of me.

i really need to stand up, but the thing is i really don’t need to care about them because in the future its not like i’m gonna see them. and for ppl who are struggling keep this quote in ur head and say it to your self ” Fuck them all’ and when i read others issues i feel the same way. and sometimes I need to be a bitch, to stand up for yourself.And also you know yourself better then other ppl.

i’m still struggling, but i hope i can get through this!!

need CONFIDENCE

well i took one of the first steps to accomplishing this last night. i need to start sticking up for myself on certain things, and hopefully this won’t take too long to get the hang of.

i’ve been letting the world go by and not say anything. Now its time to speak and be heard. No one can stop me from following my Dream. Im gonna make it. Let it be known. I will Never give up.