not gossip

Gossip just feels like crap now. No pleasure, and it seems like instant karmic slapdown when I try.

I am finding that I am just losing my taste for gossip. I think MIL’s suicide and all the crap we’ve been through is pounding in that there are just so many really important things to be focusing on that dissecting other people’s foibles. Another can be gone, just like that, and that includes me. What do I want from life?

I am feeling this urge to explore strong and gentle, and gossip doesn’t fit into either of those virtues.

I’ve found out there is really nothing to say to some people, if there is nothing negative to say.

I just say: “That too bad, I hope things get better.” to their litanies of woe and move on. I do my best to keep from giving advice, another downfall of mine that has really improved thanks to 43T and discipline.

In gossip, I just politely change the subject and walk away. This is a strong habit but I am doing my best to replace it with higher ones: I don’t believe a habit can be ‘broken’ as that’s for physical things, but I do believe something higher can be substituted for something lower on the metaphysical realm. Like one of the laws of Thermodynamics: Matter/energy cannot be created or destroyed, but simply takes one form for another. Or something like that. But you get the idea, right? Anyway, I think thoughts and actions and attitudes are energy, and can be changed for something else, equal but higher with conscious thought and deliberation. Like climbing a ladder, rung by rung. At the top I hope to see a new vista, and be able to reach for still higher things.

The good thing is that this keeps me strong on the Secret goal. I am not sabotaging myself by indulging in negative talk that is pulling in more negativity.

This is a part of what she wrote, but it really hit home:

“Has your perfectionism caused you to put on the façade of cattiness,
gossiping, whining, sarcasm, martyrdom, cynicism, snide remarks,
realism or I’m just saying? Isn’t it awful that perfect can turn into
such ugliness? Watch yourself this week. Put signs to up remind
yourself to stop this negative behavior. Just because you think you
are right doesn’t give you permission to rain on someone’s parade.”

‘nuff said. I’ve got my work laid out for me.

And honestly, if I have a ‘friend’ where all we have in common is gossip, then they are really not my friend, are they? Because a true friend wants someone to elevate spiritually.

This does not help with doing the Secret in any way either. And it hurts people, and I do not want that. Heck, I’ve been really hurt by it. So I will watch my mouth.

1st step, awareness….......done that…. lol

What do we really gain, by speaking about someones faults! Lord knows we all need help.

I need to put more positive energy into the world.

Probably not gonna work out too well, haha. I’m a huuge gossip. I never gossip about any big secrets of my friends or anything, but still… Whenever me and my friends are around eachother… We get to talking and… We can’t seem to stop gossiping, haha. I know I’m not the only one with this issue…

I feel in the other day. Way in.. I was gossiping for hours. You know what? All of this time I have not been gossiping I had learned so much about people that I was shocked when it all came pouring out!