Figure out how to communicate with people so they understand what I'm saying

i always forget something when it happen a minute and forget quickly so my brain has a sick or not

Actually I too often think i’d better shut up :/

Catch 22: People have to beleive that I actually have something to say in order to pay attention to what I have to say.
I’ve noticed in more than one ocasion that I have the vision when others don’t have a clue. It is my credibility, e.g. different value scale. E.g. i “lose points” on something irelevant to me, that happens to be some sort of “credibility marker” to other people.

Many times, words come easily to me.

Some of the time, those words aren’t the correct words or are wrapped in sentences that either don’t make sense or dismay others.

Yeow.

It is me, being too sucessful in pleesing other’s people needs, who made me invisible/unaudible! So simple but so true! :)

Since I’m so sensitive to other people emotions,
and like to make them feel nice & comfortable,
and shy,
and have prejudice that people dislike me
(can’t help myself beig so different),
and tend to leave leadeship to others (although perfectly capable to lead),
and hard to express feelings,
and… and ….
they almost never got the chance to see real me. Only those who do not actually care to be pleased can see trough this mask, if there are souch people…

I’m cameleon forming my image to suit other’s tastes (depending who I talk with) unconsciously fearing rejection! Old habit – I’m safe now! How can I be understood if I don’t show myself, right?

... how to approach this goal.

may have to ask for advice.

I speak the truth, not so much as I would, but as much as I dare; and I dare a little more as I grow older.
- Montaigne

1. I need to understand what I am saying before expecting others to understand me.
2. I need to keep in mind that not everybody has a gift of understanding, emphaty, mind reading (and stop expecting that).
3. When I am confident and direct it is much easier for people to accept my ideas.

when i want to point out someting , i am so indirect – i’m afraid to hurt other peoples feelings – that my point is totaly lost.
and i am indirect only when i want to point out something. otherwise i’m totaly direct, not thinking what am i saying at all.
so when i think, i start to mess it all :-) funny

i realised that i usually say only a conclusion. i think about something and suddenly start to think aloud. but other person can’t hear my thoughts. I need to tell them the whole idea from the beginning not just a conclusion.
sometimes it is the opposite, i think aloud and there is no visible sence in it, it is just a bunch of thoughts i try to articulate. my thinking is composite and words are linear. i often have the feeling that words say a small fraction of what i want to say.
in fact i don’t have formed habit of thinking what will i say. when other person speaks i carefully listen (i don’t use that time to think what will i say, my full attention is devoted to listening). so when is my turn to say something, i start to think and it’s already too late.
but when i know what is the message i want to give, i need to tell the whole story not just the conclusion. it is too condensed then. not enough redundance.