communicate better with my partner

I am having many problems with my partner, I need some help let me know if you wanna be e-mailing partners to help me and give me some helpful advis.

The main problem that my boyfriend and I have as that we both bottle things up until they become this huuuuuge deal. I’ve told him we have a communication issue and he has agreed with me and now I make a special effort to try and tell him what’s going on in my head. He makes an effort too but usually has to be reminded lol

I would like to be able to communicate better with him. My husband has epilepsy and has had the frontal lobe part of the brain cut into and causes memory and communication problems. I would like to be able to talk about things and get a better understand about how his medical conditions controls his life and what we can do together to overcome this burden upon him.

As he and I broke up a couple of months ago, and we are not sure where this is heading.

we have an anniversary coming up and i just remembered that last year we decided that we should “perfect” our communication problems. well, we still disagree sometimes, but i think we’ve done pretty well at learning to deal with it.

Oh I have ignored this one for too long. I need to set up a plan.

things have been going pretty well recently (knock on wood), but sometimes it’s hard to remember to prioritize remaining calm and rational when i’m feeling upset.

pointless disagreements are so frustrating, especially when you get to the bottom of them and realize that you basically agree after all. my goal is to skip the in between part and go straight from the discussion to the agreeing.