make friends

I can count all my friends on one hand. And we barely have anything in common anymore. I’ll never give up the friends I still have, but I’d like other friends too. I read once you should have many groups of friends. Example, your party friends, your active friends, your parent friends. Like, I want friends around my age who has a child(ren) too. But we’d have to have more in common than just being a parent you know. I hung out with an old neighbor, Amanda recently, who has an 8 month old daughter. It was fun, and she seems really nice. I hope we can hang out again soon.

I’m 13, I don’t know why I’m a loner.. Actually sometimes I hate to be alone, and I hate to be in crowded… Exactly I don’t like to spend all of my time to be alone. Almost in a day and a night, I’m playing with the computer, probably that’s the problem. I want to be a social people, I realized that I need friends. I don’t like sports, I’ve tried it, when I join the trial of basketball club, I’m not enjoying it. It was very boring. And I doing things that I don’t like. And now, I need some advise, could someone tell me how to make some friends??

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I WANT TO MAKE FRIENDS

hi everyone….........

I’ve really become strong acquaintances with several people through my time at college. I consider them friends, but I still haven’t had the time and devotion to do anything with any of them outside of class. I am going to do that this summer.

I want to make alot of friends in about 6 months. This relates to my other goal of having an extremely active social life.

I’m going to have a party this summer. I’m not listing it as a separate goal because I think it’s part of this one.

I met a room full of wonderful women last night and plan to attend more gatherings with my new friends.

I found a really good website, meetup.com, to meet new friends that have the same interests as I do and learn a lot more than doing it on my own!

I think my expectations of “making friends” are a little unclear and immeasurable. After all, what constitutes a good friend? How do you know when they’ve become a good friend? How do you make this “good friend” status known to the other person without coming across as weirdly obsessed with labels and expectations of what a good friend should be/do/say/feel?

I don’t know the answers to these questions. All I know is that right now I can only count a handful of people that check in with me on a regular basis. They’re a good mix of family and friends. I feel guilty that this should be enough for me. But honestly, I still feel like even these people keep their distance at times. None of them really show a desire to get to know me on any deeper levels. They show interest, but is it out of an unspoken obligation to continue showing interest when they may have lost it awhile ago? Friendship is confusing.

I guess the only thing I can do is measure how good of a friend I am to those that openly consider me a friend. Do I make an effort to get to know them on a deeper level? Do I help them when they need help? Am I honest with them? Do I let them in? These are things I have to consider before I can start expecting others to do the same for/with me.