Improve my relationship with my boyfriend

We are fighting less, enjoying our time together more, talking a bit more. It’s progress, it doesn’t all happen at once. I have to keep reminding myself of that. We do want couples therapy, but right now we don’t have the money or time, in any way. But we both agree we need and want it, and look forward to it.

money trust addiction love worry fear communication

yea, I can sum up our relationship problems just like that.

Whats wrong with me?????

But communication is still an issue. Or rather, he’s still angry and upset by how little I talk to him. And when he’s decided I’m not talking enough, he just gets mad and admittedly just starts being a total ass. I’m trying to talk more but its an hour by hour struggle to talk enough for him about something to interest him. Whats on my mind just to chat about mostly is often my job, but he never wants to talk about that.

After living together for more than seven months, never apart for more than ten hours, he’s staying with some of his friends and I’m staying at my grandparent’s because neither of us have anywhere else to go. We’re looking for our new home, but he’s going so slow with it, wanting to find just the “right place”. I just want a place where its convient to our work, we can at least afford it even if its not a good deal and we are TOGETHER, thats not here at my grandparents or him at his friends. I can’t stand it here, and he’s not understanding how miserable I am here! He’s at a friend’s house, he’s FINE there! I don’t know what to do

Living together for four months, dating four months. You’re kidding, right? Nope. I was in a bad spot, and he rescued me. And we’ve been together ever since. He’s my hero, and he’s still a guy, so this isn’t a fairy tale. I’m certainly not Cinderella. For one thing, my housekeeping skills fairly… fall short. Keeping the laundry done, the closet organized, I’m perfectly respectable as a house-girlfriend (heh) but cooking? I love it in theory, but in practice, well, I’ll leave it at “I don’t do it much”. I love him, him me, which I used to believe (sooo naive) was enough to keep us perfectly happy, in love and entertained. Four months into my first live-in relationship, and I’m trying to cope with boredom, wants, needs for space and attention, stress. Both his and mine. I love him, he’s still my hero but now he’s also the man who went to a strip club when I assumed he was working late, wants to strangle me for my neurotic-ness and shyness at times and the one that sometimes for a week or more, I can’t seem to go a day without arguing with over some stupid imagined fault, of mine or his. Also, he’s the man who doesn’t get mad after I use up all the hot water for the third day in a row, brings me food when I’m hiding from our housemates moodily, brings me my favorite kind of chips just as a treat every now and then, cuddles with me every night, always kisses me good morning, good night and good bye, and tries to make me happy…. all the time. I still wonder how I can get mad at him! But our communication, frankly, sucks often. Also, our ability to get past some issues that have been sources of disagreement for at least the bulk of our relationship. As a whole, its not bad, I’m happy with him. Actually, I’m very happy with him. Just not so much with our sometimes seemingly endless snipping. I take at least half the blame for this, if not much more. So… here I am, putting my desire to help our relationship into writing, hoping that will help keep me focused on long-term happiness rather than seeing the xbox and other various game systems in our house as rivals.

at this point it could go either way. i really want to work things out and since moving out 2 weeks ago i’m starting to see a lot of things that can be improved not only in the relationship but also in my personal life. especially my personal life! i just wish i knew what was going on in his head and knew how he felt about everything. i’m not ready to give up on “us” i just hope he is willing to try as well.

We had a really great day together. All together our relationship is going pretty well. I’m going to mark this as done, since our relationship has improved greatly the past month.

now we’re broken up. but i said i did it because i don’t want to ‘give up’ on that. now i’m going to focus on other things.

you see, at 23 (almost 24) it’s a weird age to have a relationship. at this age you could be in one that’ll end in marriage, and you also could just be having fun and not worrying about that. but then all of your friends around you are getting married and it makes it awkward sometimes. and then there are all those other issues- like differences in goals and views and desires and things about marriage and about commitment.

anyway i just think it’s hard to find a balance of how much to commit/devote myself to the relationship.

i guess i should just live and enjoy the good times and try to focus on having more of them.