a “first-available” dental appointment, in order to repair the front tooth that chipped…. sigh5 hours ago
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this “counts” as taking care of myself…. smile
I weighed in using a different scale than usual, at the specialist’s office, & was quite pleased to learn that, since I was last there six months ago, my weight has been entirely stable despite the ups & downs which have occurred during that time. In fact, my weight is so stable that I weigh “only” six ounces less, six months later.6 hours ago
my annual “Well Woman” visit (& mustn’t forget to schedule my next mammogram, which has to be done later, & at an affiliated lab center rather than the doctor’s office). 1 day ago
the repeat testing that the specialist has requested (six-month interval). 1 day ago
a routine check-up with a specialist (he’s having me repeat a test from six months ago, to see how the scores compare; otherwise, it’s done). smile1 day ago
An unexpected visit to my G/P’s practice today (I was glad that they could work me in, since the sinusitis had gotten bad enough by now that he prescribed antibiotics—but we’re avoiding the steroids for the time being, as I want to see whether I can get by without them). wry grin3 days ago
Cleaned, re-seated & re-glued, & routine cleaning & exam completed: “Look, Ma, no new cavities!” grin4 weeks ago
to ask the dentist what to do about the crown that just fell off one of my molars. wry grin4 weeks ago
for information necessary for the periodic/routine colonoscopy referral. sigh1 month ago
Visited my family doctor for help, after two weeks of feeling “puny” (& two consecutive days of work missed); he prescribed medication to get the bronchitis/sinusitis under control. (He also remarked that he’d last seen me for this exactly a year ago this month. wry grin) 1 month ago
A visit to my family doctor to get this ongoing bout of sinusitis(?) checked out. sigh1 month ago
I’ve started a Body Pump class and discovered I really like it. I try to make it 3 times a week, but in reality it’s twice a week most often. Best of all I’m losing inches and my balance is improving! And I think I can see my bicep muscles! 1 month ago
working out this current coverage confusion with health insurance company. reminders to stay on it and follow up… 2 months ago
my new eyeglasses (13 September): a bit of head- & eye-ache while I’m adjusting (at least it seems to be a swift adjustment so far). smile2 months ago
1. Monitoring foods with sugar and eliminating most of those Starbucks drinks I adore with only coffee and milk – accomplished
2. Not working in incredibly stressful job in San Francisco – accomplished
3. Looking for a work atmosphere I want to be in – accomplished
4. Yoga with a friend – accomplished week 1
5. Eliminating incredibly starchy foods like udon – accomplished
6. Exercising 30 min. a day to make blood sugar go down – accomplished
Result: BMI went from 28 to 27 – feeling good! 3 months ago
I never thought time could literally pass in the blink of an eye, but it seems that the past 6 months have done just that. Our wedding is coming in 10 days (!!!), and we are headed to Paris after, in search of well-deserved relaxation and recuperation. I have spent the last six months taking care of my father threw another round of kidney cancer – one that was brought on without warning. After the diagnosis, he had his remaining kidney removed, and was placed on dialysis. We learned about home-hemodialysis, which is basically training to do it in the comfort of your house. So I learned to do just that, and I haven’t regretted it in the slightest. In the meantime, I have been losing weight without trying, which might not be the healthiest, but I’ve found I have reverted back to my old eating habits, which ARE healthy, just lots of whole and nourishing foods, comforting cups of tea and a glass of wine every now and again. My stormy moods have calmed as well – I finally have sought help for my anxiety, so that is a relief as well. Everything is starting to be more at ease, and for that, I am most grateful to whomever is out there. 3 months ago
I have, like a lot of people, problem setting personal boudaries, and I’m currently learning to do so, using the advice you can read below.
My SP friend Celest wrote on my SP page:
“Oooh I’d so love to say I will take some me time, but now is not possible. My mom just had knee replacement surgery and is still in the recovery stage. While she is INCREDIBLY demanding, she is also emotional and in pain, so I have to tough it out for a few more weeks till she’s fully mobile by herself. Thankfully I have time out with boot camp and I take the dogs for runs. My sister and I take it day about to care for my moms needs…but when she’s recovered I am definitely taking a long weekend and hubby and I are going away. Can’t wait for that.”
This reminds me of this great advice I read in nesletter form today:
Setting Boundaries with Yourself,
and With Others
- My friend, Gary, takes care of his elderly father who has Alzheimer’s. Gary himself is recovering from a stroke and limited in what he can do. Yet he continues to feel he must be ‘the good son’ because he promised his mother he would take care of his father. His siblings contribute some financially, but avoid doing any of the care themselves. Gary will not consider adult day care or other facility for his dad, despite his own physical limitations and stress.
- My neighbor Pat continued to call her son every morning when he went away to college because she was afraid he would oversleep and miss his morning classes. He has always had such a hard time waking up, she explains, and often her calls were the only reason he made it to his early classes.
- `I said we would have the people in my department and their spouses over for dinner,’ said my friend Susan’s husband. Susan agreed, but felt angry and overwhelmed at the work she was expected to do. She wanted to impress her husband’s colleagues, even if it meant cooking the entire dinner all by herself, rather than having it catered.
What do all of these people have in common? They all have a problem setting boundaries…for themselves and for others.
In the physical world, boundaries are things like fences or guard rails, things which provide separation and protection. Personal boundaries also protect us from doing things which cause anger, resentment, depression or other feel bad emotions.
Most of us probably don’t spend much time thinking about what our boundaries are, but we know when they have been crossed.
In the above situation, Gary feels resentful, worried, and more than a little depressed. He sees no way out of his current situation. Pat feels used, but also fears not feeling needed as her nest is now empty. Susan feels angry, resentful, and anxious that she will not be able to meet her husband’s or her own expectations.
All of these people need to establish boundaries with which they can be comfortable. They must set limits on how they will allow themselves to be treated by others and how they treat themselves as well.
1) Recognize your boundaries.
When we do something that is wrong for us, or when someone takes advantage of us, we usually feel it, although we may try not to. Notice your feelings. Do you feel used? Angry? Anxious? Do you feel as though your energy or personal space has been encroached upon? Learn to become aware of these sensations.
2) Give yourself permission to set boundaries.
People who know their boundaries tend to have better self esteem and self awareness. They respect themselves, and can make it known that they expect those around them to respect them too.
3) Explain your boundaries when others cross them.
Do this calmly, respectfully, and without blame. Explain what feels upsetting to you and why. When Susan explained to her husband that she felt very put upon that he had committed her to having this dinner party, he was surprised. He honestly did not know how much stress it caused her.
For her part, Susan also realized she was causing some of her own stress by wanting to do everything, and do it perfectly. They agreed that in the future they would make decisions about entertaining together, and would be comfortable with outsourcing some of the work.
4) Be willing to explain what you will and won’t do and let the consequences happen.
Pat told her son that she would no longer call him to wake up for classes. He complained at first, and even missed a couple of early morning lectures, but when he realized she meant it, he learned to set two alarm clocks to be sure he got to class on time. Pat learned to let go of her need to feel needed by her son, and found she enjoyed the time and freedom of her empty nest.
Gary finally called a family meeting and explained the strain and feeling of having no control over his own life. His siblings agreed to help out with their father’s care, and realized as they did so how very difficult it was. They found a good Alzheimer’s care facility and convinced Gary that his mother would certainly understand, that she would not have wanted him stuck in that situation.
Recognizing our boundaries, explaining them when necessary, and sticking to them takes practice…but ultimately gives us more freedom, more time, and more respect.
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source: get organized now! newsletter. You can subscribe here: http://www.getorganizednow.com 3 months ago
OK, so didn’t eat enough (I tend to forget when under tremendous pressure like right now) today and thus began feeling really weak around 3PM.
On the bright side: feeling weak reminded me to eat (thank you, my body, for sending me a reminder!) and helped me decide I needed the rest of the day off. I went home and napped instead of rushing.
Bonus: instead of rushing and running, I asked for help and received it! Now I will get the help I need but not today when I wasn’t feeling good. I will get it tomorrow when it is more convenient for me anyway.
:-D 3 months ago