Stop saying "I'm Sorry" as a reflex when I didn't do anything!

I’ve really done well with this goal in the past few months. I have realized a lot of the times I want to say “sorry” I really me “excuse me”. So that is what I am saying now! It really annoys me when other people say sorry about things like reaching over you or something like that. I almost want to ask them “do you really mean that you are sorry for what you just did??”
If I can change my ways maybe other people will take notice!

I think I am getting better at this. I still used a lot of ‘scuzi’ in Italy. But in general, I’m getting a lot better at standing up for myself. Now when I get into a quarrel with someone, I don’t automatically turn the blame on myself and feel like I have to fix things.

Leaving this on for a little while longer, but well on the way.

haha disz group made me smile..theres so many people in it.
i say sorry so much that i apologize for saying sorry

It is such an automatic response for me to say sorry when I bump into someone or something of the sort, while most of the time it’s them bumping in to me. In some respect I don’t mind me saying sorry, in the sense that if both parties say sorry it’s just polite. The problem is that sometimes other people aren’t polite and because I said sorry it’s then suddenly my fault.

The politics of saying sorry. Difficult stuff.

My standard statement now is “Excuse Me” when I bump into someone or have to speak up to get by someone. Ironically, I’ve actually gotten better at saying “I’m Sorry” when I need to actually say it (I messed up etc.)

I actually was going to do this today but I thought to myself, “Is it something I really need to be sorry about about??”
It made me feel good!

I am so surprised I am not the only person that does this!
It annoys my mom so much. When ever I do it she says, “What are you sorry for…you didn’t do anything!”

I thought it was just me that did this! There are others?? This is beyond cool! We’re all weird together!

I can’t help saying sorry, it literally is a habit of mine. It’s so ridiculous, sometimes I even apologise when someone does something to me that they should apologise for, so I’m basically saying sorry to myself on their behalf. How weird is that?!

Last night I was later than usual going over to J’s after work because I was talking to my parents on the phone, and my mom can talk for HOURS! (Of course he’s well aware of that fact…) And when I got there, it was all I could do not to say “I’m sorry it took me so long!” But I didn’t! Had to bite my tongue three times.

I really only do this with friends and the bf. NEVER at work or in professional situations when I guess I’m more cognizant of what I’m about to say and catch it before it would come out.
SO what I need is a new phrase to use with friends/bf that conveys what I mean. I’m a big believer in apologizing when you’re actually in the wrong, but for other “sympathetic” responses I need another phrase…or when I’m “explaining myself” not having done something on purpose but it turned out to be the wrong thing.