be the mom I never had

The kid’s school has this event every year at the end of school and I think most schools still do? At least mine did when I was little.
Anyway, I volunteer each year, and this year will be the same.
I took the day off of work, as much as I really cannot afford it, I want to be there for the kids, and have fun with them.
I mean yes bills are paid and that, it’s just anything extra or going out to dinner will have to wait, and hopefully they get that.
Well the older one does. Sometimes.

My mom never did any of the school stuff with me and my class when I was younger. My brother is 5 years younger, and she did a couple of field trips.
My sister is 11 years younger and she did more with her, when SHE was little. Yea I guess that does sound kinda snotty.

So basically this aspect of life I have already been more of the mom then my own.

I wish I could be the mom who knows all the classmates in their kids’ class, or the mom that gets to go and read to the kids. Or the mom that goes on every damn trip and school function. For BOTH kids.

Or even the mom that picks their kids up after school and is there to cook them dinner right after or at least get them a snack.

But I am not THAT mom, I am the mom who shows up in emergencies, and the mom that pays the child care, latch key bills, I am the mom that the kids go to for book money for snack or lunch money. I am the mom that pays attention to the kids when there are sick. And really don’t feel good.
I am the mom that says cheer up there is always the weekend. I am the mom that says, nice try, but you still need to clean your room anyway.
I am the mom that says hi to the principal and is not afraid of the teachers when they are in the WRONG, and there have been those times.

I am the mom that the school knows and the teachers call or email I am the mom that goes to the parent teacher conferences EVERY time. I am the mom that the school calls when ever anything goes well or goes wrong.
I am the mom that the kids know that if they are REALLLY sick, I will be there no matter what.
I am the mom that says hey do your homework, brush your teeth. Go to bed.
I am the mom that drops them off every morning on time, and makes sure they have their back packs. And on a good day the boy brushes his hair. I am the mom that kisses their cheek or forehead and hugs them good bye wishes them a good day.
And tells them they are loved bunches.
I am that mom.

The kid’s school has this event every year at the end of school and I think most schools still do? At least mine did when I was little.
Anyway, I volunteer each year, and this year will be the same.
I took the day off of work, as much as I really cannot afford it, I want to be there for the kids, and have fun with them.
I mean yes bills are paid and that, it’s just anything extra or going out to dinner will have to wait, and hopefully they get that.
Well the older one does. Sometimes.

My mom never did any of the school stuff with me and my class when I was younger. My brother is 5 years younger, and she did a couple of field trips.
My sister is 11 years younger and she did more with her, when SHE was little. Yea I guess that does sound kinda snotty.

So basically this aspect of life I have already been more of the mom then my own.

I wish I could be the mom who knows all the classmates in their kids’ class, or the mom that gets to go and read to the kids. Or the mom that goes on every damn trip and school function. For BOTH kids.

Or even the mom that picks their kids up after school and is there to cook them dinner right after or at least get them a snack.

But I am not THAT mom, I am the mom who shows up in emergencies, and the mom that pays the child care, latch key bills, I am the mom that the kids go to for book money for snack or lunch money. I am the mom that pays attention to the kids when there are sick. And really don’t feel good.
I am the mom that says cheer up there is always the weekend. I am the mom that says, nice try, but you still need to clean your room anyway.
I am the mom that says hi to the principal and is not afraid of the teachers when they are in the WRONG, and there have been those times.

I am the mom that the school knows and the teachers call or email I am the mom that goes to the parent teacher conferences EVERY time. I am the mom that the school calls when ever anything goes well or goes wrong.
I am the mom that the kids know that if they are REALLLY sick, I will be there no matter what.
I am the mom that says hey do your homework, brush your teeth. Go to bed.
I am the mom that drops them off every morning on time, and makes sure they have their back packs. And on a good day the boy brushes his hair. I am the mom that kisses their cheek or forehead and hugs them good bye wishes them a good day.
And tells them they are loved bunches.
I am that mom.

I was at my daughters preschool graduation. It was so nice. She is getting so big so fast, 5 in July. The teacher read this poem about the kids. and she cried that made me start getting all teary-eyed.

Kids grow so fast. One day they seem so adorable and cute as babies, the next they are getting theri own clothes on, getting their lunch and getting their own seatbelt on.
They don’t need mom as much and one day the will say Mom stop I can do it myself. that is the day I don’t want yet I know it is coming.

the mom I never had.

my kids are great sure they are brats and better when they are sleeping, so cute and quiet. both are so smart they make me so proud. they are freindly. and outgoinging, and my son gets praises from his pricipal not bad calls home. I had his talent show last friday, where he played gutiar “the white stripes,seven nation army. he was great. I let him get his hair cut to a mohawk and paited his nails black. everyone loved it too. he was so proud on the stage.
I was the sappy mom trying not to cry, I was happy.
I never did anything like that in school, so I am the mom I never had.

...she just wasn’t very present in my life for much of the time. Therefore, it’s not all that difficult to be a better mom to my kids than she was to me. Sometimes I admit to myself that there are a few things she did better than I’ve been doing, but overall, I know I’ve already done this. I just wanted to keep it on my list for a few days so I could think about it.

my mom is crazy, she says oh I don’t have the money, but then we go out this weekend to figure what she is getting my kids, she’ll charge it and be the good grandma this year, so she says.

whatever, I made popcorn last nite, and plan on, stringing it this week with the kids, somone told me that stale popcorn was best to string, so well try it, and yea holidays can be fun , if you don’t stress the money issues so much.

too f*&kin fast. I hate the holidays, all very over rated. I am done with the “traditional” ways. why do we celebrate x mas any ways? seriously, my kids ask me and I don’t know what to say, I am the ‘bad mom’ we don’t go to church, study any bible, or religion…..we do beleive in angels, ghosts, and God and the Devil.so why do I need xmas? for giving gifts that moms can’t afford to buy? I am sick of trying to win over the kids with presents, the toys they have now are good enough, and we donate things as much as I can…..new or used, they DO NOT NEED things to show them Xmas.
I hate to sound like a scrooge but really what the hell do we need xmas for?

all comments are welcome

and how I really don’t like the teacher, but I still do the work in class, yea it’s harder but well worth it… hopefully some of this will rub off on the kids.
My mom never praised anything with school. I do think I am the better mom in that area.
I have been making it a practice to spend time with them before bed, reading talking homework whatever. I don’t do the chores like I should and have millions of other things that I have to get done, but hey f**k it, the kids are clean and there’s food, so the house needs to be vaccuumed, I have time with the kids….

my b/f has switched to midnites and works now when we sleep, the kids want me to spend time with them at bed time that my only time, but now I miss my sweetie, so last nite I had the kids get ready for bed, I changed, he was already for work. I let the kids come into my bed. I don’t let them on school nites, but what the hell, my son and daughter, slept so good, she didn’t wake up, and sometimes does. he slept in one spot, not ALL over the bed…...I was at the end of the bed, and so was my bf, I felt so comfy and loved, by all of them I got to spend time with them all and they were happt too. this morning was easier to get them to wake up. NOW me on the other hand, my neck hurts I really didn’t sleep s well as I wanted, but I got sometime with my family.

I think it took a lot of coourage and self-knowledge to admit this as a goal. I only say I’ve done it because (1) my mom set the bar pretty low, and (2) I don’t think I can bare to look at it often: why I think you’re very brave Amy Lynn.

Lots of issues surrounding my mom have popped up again. I’m dealing better, but it’s still a shock. Must be the “let down” of being out of school.