I have two kids, i don’t live with her mother, and i see them every two weeks, and it sucks, it’s very hard for a father not to be with their sons, playing everyday after school, be there when they have problems, teach them some things about life, support them. That really sucks, I never have my father and all i want everyday of my life is be there to my kids, and become a great father. 9 months ago
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He even feel asleep in the Bjorn while listening to Led Zep Ten Years Gone10 months ago
These days I take care of Zeke from 9am to 730pm completely by myself. I’ve done this since January 2nd when my wife went back to work. I am supposed to be getting a job too (as a teacher) but it’s difficult even to section time to print, fill-out and turn-in the proper forms. I’m doing it though. I’m taking care of him, and it’s fun most of the time but these unrelentingly cold days stuck inside the house are taking their toll on both (all 3) of us. My little guy loves to go outside but it’s irresponsible to have him out for more than a few minutes when the weather is so cold and wet, and very dangerous to take him anywhere in the car. On the bright side, the house is intensely clean. I have reveled in the tiny victories I’ve made around here but my guy and I have an acute case of cabin fever; it’s way better than being actually sick though. G took off from work an hour early and now they’re in the bedroom calmly cooing at one another; my boobs don’t work near as good. Here’s a picture of a rare happy time today. 10 months ago
I am disconnected from my kids. They are loving and sweet, but I am always trying to find “me” time, to the point that I push them away. I’m foolish for that, and I’m going to work on being better. How? I’m not sure just yet, but I’m looking for an answer, and I’m sure I’ll find it. 12 months ago
wake up by at least 6-7a.m. when my son does and take him from my wife so she can sleep in for the rest of her FMLA leave Dec.31st
- institute a regimen of daily exercise and meditation for my wife and me wherein we trade watching Z while we do these
- stop watching TV as a habit and take that time for the aforementioned practices as well as all types of other fun family things in the winter evening hours
start working doubly hard on the house, inside and out, to get it to an acceptable level of comfort finish school strong so that it’s all over and done and can’t hurt me any more
- look for any/all work so that I can make enough money not to feel guilty and offset the cost of the HI trip that I am being coerced into
- study cars and car buying like it is a class and just know what to say and do when we start car shopping in Feb.
don’t take naps when possible and try to go to bed early w/ Z learn to take care of Z to the utmost13 months ago
I can’t take much credit, but my son is an amazing success- he has his Masters, PhD, a career and a perfect wife.
Now I’m working to improve my own situation so he is proud of where I’m at and our relationship—14 months ago
I have been trying to wake up and change Zeke’s diaper as often as my wife does, even if she is changing it I still try to get up and assist.
Also, when he is not actively feeding I try to hold him so that she is able to get up and move around a little. These only cover his and her immediate concerns however. Being a good father in the future will have to depend on striking a balance between supporting him financially and spending time with him so that I don’t turn around, and all of the sudden, he is all growed up. These concerns will be paramount as I begin my foray into the working world. 14 months ago
Have become a diaper and swaddling master and I’m getting pretty good at calming his crying (I basically play a game where we act like he is bouncing off of everything). I hold him as often as I can to give my wife a break between feedings and I have also become a master burper. 15 months ago
I’ve learned to swaddle and diaper and my skills are slowly improving but I still haven’t reached master status;). G seems very pleased though, so that’s good. Ezekiel’s plaintive cries are so sweet and remedying his various grievances is my main concern right now. I must admit that I love him already! Plenty of pics to come. 15 months ago