Be confident

I want to improve my self-confidence. I want to make new friends, get new clothes and change my body image by working out more. I think doing these things (and others) will help me improve my self-confidence and make me attractive in mine and other people’s eyes.

I want to be able to feel confident doing things on my own such as going to the store, shopping, going for walks & leaving the house.

its so hard to walk into a room and everyone comment on how beautiful you are but you think they are all lying. or to look in the mirror and no matter how many pounds you loose you still look disgusting. I want to look beautiful and feel it too!

Okay, so this is almost complete. I’m planning to make a little list of things to do, like a little test, and when I’ll complete it, I’ll officially consider this done.

Figure it out for yourself, my lad,
You’ve all that the greatest of men have had;
Two arms, two hands, two legs, two eyes,
And a brain to use if you would be wise,
With this equipment they all began—
So start from the top and say, I CAN.

Look them over, the wise and the great,
They take their food from a common plate,
And similar knives and forks they use,
With similar laces they tie their shoes;
The world considers them brave and smart,
But you’ve all they had when they made their start.

You can triumph and come to skill,
You can be great if you only will;
You’re well equipped for what fight you choose,
You have arms and legs and a brain to use;
And the man who has risen great deeds to do
Began his life with no more than you.

You are the handicap you must face,
You are the one who must choose your place.
You must say where you want to go,
How much you will study the truth to know;
God has equipped you for life, but He
Lets you decide what you want to be.

Courage must come from the soul within
The man must furnish the will to win.
So figure it out for yourself my lad,
You were born with all that the great have had;
With your equipment they all began,
Get hold of yourself and say, ‘I CAN.’

George Washington Carver

Wow, neh? I loved it….I want to memorize that, I think.

I’m going to start getting stronger physically and mentally, and I’m going to trust in the strength I have.

Hello Friends,

First let me introduce myself. I am Pamila, by profession I am a Life insurance agent since past two years. As life insurance agent I am not successful since I am just managing to complete my minimum target. I am trying to confront my fears but I am still facing lot of difficulties like I have fear of What IF before taking any actions. Like what if things will go wrong, what if I will make a mistake, what if people will reject me, what if people will laugh at me, what if I will make a fool of myself, what if people will criticise me, what if people will get angry with me, what if people will shout and scold me, what if people will discourage me, what if people will ignore me, what if people will avoid me, what if people will react in way which I wouldn’t like what if people will think and talk about me that I am a failure as insurance agent, I do not earn well and and don’t have income etc.
Even right now I am facing all this fears but I really do no know how to cope with rejections and get myself emotionally detach. Also how do I build self confidence to face this fears. I also get emotionally hurt and upset and loose focus and I worry when all the above mentioned things takes place in real. For example I make a mistake like spilling a cup of coffee in front of people, or if I say something funny and people don’t laugh or don’t respond well to my jokes, I feel that people don’t like my personality or I am stupid and should have said that or done like that etc. Or people don’t like my sense of humor etc… and then I try to correct myself in each individual areas by setting rules like I should drink coffee like this, I should behave like this, I should not say like this to this person like that etc.
I just want to get out of this mindset and enjoy my life and not be bothered ( Sensitive)by people comments, reactions, rejections, disapproval, small mistakes made by me etc.

Please help me to overcome this problem and fears how to deal by not being bothered and concerned about other people and their reaction towards me. If possible please suggest some good books to read to overcome this kind of fears and build self confidence and self esteem.

Also regarding my life insurance business I am still facing problems
in the following areas.

1)How to introduce myself in parties & social functions & what to say when giving visiting cards to get future business,services & work from them without sounding like I am begging so as to increase my
business or network.

For example currently I say :- If you have any need to purchase policy or you need any service please call me. Or please buy a policy from me. I will be glad if U can provide me with a exact script so that I dont sound as if I am begging. I will appreciate if you can provide me with a script. eg:- here is my visiting card, if you need insurance call me etc.

2) Please also provide exact script on What should I talk to people and how to ask them to buy a new policy or ( how to propose them to buy or to consider buying a ploicy) when i am in front of them when i meet them in parties and social functions for the first time please provide exact script or an example.

I will appreciate if you can help in the following areas and help me overcome this fear. Awaiting for your positive response as soon as possible.

Thanks & Regards,

Pamila.

I have always been shy…but i grew up till i left school and college and uni its going down again as I struggling with practical exams

I want to be confident in what i do

Sports therapy is my leap of faith and this is my purpose in life

I’ve lost my confidence socially and at work. I want to present myself with the self-assurance of someone who believes in themselves. I am good at my work, and I kind of feel I am ok in a social setting (although speaking in a large group terrifies me) but I still come across as very unsure and this is picked up on by other people and they become less confident in me. This is not good especially at work! So I definitely want to be confident again. It would improve my life substantially.

Something i ALWAYS do is give up on things shortly after i start. either cos it’s hard and change my mind, or cos i get bored. i hate that about me. my family have no faith in me and i don’t blame them for it. i’ve let them down many times. i’m not an ambitious person and have no drive or motivation, although this site might help. i feeel its already helping me. i would just like to make my loved ones proud for once.