be genuinely happy for others, not secretly jealous and bitter

I have bunch of friends who have gotten married b4 me and my enagement didn’t work out …and now i have bunch more who are getting married …

I mean – more of my friends get married better it is for me in the long run as my options will narrow and my choices will be clearer ..but besides that … having such wonderful friends and their wives may give me some good reputation …and i may just end up with one of the wives friends ….

regardless …its good that my friends are happy and moving on in life. Its good for all of us. Its better for everyone ….

I will learn from them and start to improve myself.

i just found out today that my little sister(shes 21) wants to marry her boyfriend and plans are already in motion for the wedding. they want me to be in the ceremony but out of spite i told my mom i simply cant do it.

all my life i came in second to my sister. in high school she was the popular one while i was the freak and she got her first kiss at age 12 while im 23 and still waiting for mine. i remember being terrified of bringing friends home cuz quite a few times, they would meet my sister and then start being her friend and as time went by, they would forget about me.

i just dont know what to do here.

It’s been a year or so.. and I am still genuinely happy for my friends and loved ones. It’s such a wonderful experience to feel their happiness for them instead of through them. Create your own happiness.. and it’s such a beautiful life..!

All my friends are married and i had been engaged before but it didnt work out. Now my friends are passing me by getting engaged and married and although i am happy for them Im so hurt and envious. I dont know how to take that feeling away

This one is particularly hard…

The best thing you can do is realise your own values/beliefs/ideas and remember that these are more important than any material possession/physical achievement. If you could really switch places with someone, or have a different outcome in life, would you really want the mindset of that person? Especially if they’re someone you don’t like. This always works for me.

im not jealous of stuff, just girls who date the guys i like

yeah.. i dunno when this goal is actually complete.. but i think i hv improved and stopped being so jeluz.. gotta trii and keep it up <3

jealousy,... yeah… i find that emotion swimmin around a bit… envy… i am envious of life… of those around me that tend to be jaded by all the beauty they have seen…. out there living the dream… exploring… no limits… no restrictions… no obligations…when did i let go of my dreams?

my best friend got a new boyfriend a while back, after i had been with mine for a year and a bit. She had had a few unhappy realtionships, but this one is really working out. Only now, every minuite is spent with him. She has no time for me, and i get so jelouse that every time i speak to her im on the defence, which makes her on the defence and hense our friendship is going backwards. Its not like i havent got a relationship of my own, i have. Just, she never seems to argue with him, theyre together all the time and dont get sick of each other or get stressy, theyre constantly at one anothers houses and i guess, im jelous that not only ive lost my best friend to her guy, but also, i dont see my boyfriend as much as she see’s hers (were either working or doing sport or something).
I want to be genuinly happy for her, but im just jelous.
I dont know how to get over this!