Stop fighting with my boyfriend

i fight w/ my boyfriend all the time
the relation has become a nightmare…
i feel like he hates me
we tell each other the worst things
ad many times I’m the responsible for starting the fights

we don’t fight anymore, that’s for damn sure. for over a year, we’ve been broken up, and we’re closer now than ever before. he has another girlfriend, i was talking to someone for almost a year, and i’ve learned that i enjoy being single more than i enjoy being in a relationship, and although i love richard and i sometimes miss the feeling of having a boyfriend, i don’t like the actual reality of having a boyfriend, and i tend to remember that when guys start trying to talk to me or when i get too involved with someone.

simply put, we stopped fighting.

The last month I’ve been going through a rough patch with my boyfriend. He does so many things that really upset me, and no matter how many times I tell him or scream and shout, or sit and sob it makes no difference because he doesn’t realise he’s doing it, and doesn’t mean to. So I think I need to make the effort to try and ignore these things and let them go over my head, because I don’t know how much longer I can put up with arguing with him all the time. I don’t want to lose him because he means the world to me. I’m going to explain that I’m going to try my best to understand were he’s coming from, and to not fly off the handle at all the things he does, (at the end of the day he is male haha), providing he makes an effort to understand why they upset me so much, and to try and not do it so much.

I love my boyfriend he is my best friend and we go to college in two different states and everything is basically perfection…
except:
I started this thing where I just don’t talk to him about certain things so we won’t fight because i don’t like fighting
such as:
-his fraternity and my opinion on the things they do in it
-the past fights we had that really hurt me that he thinks we’ve moved on from.

It all started with the fact his frat had strippers there one night, told me about the entire night but left that part out- but when i simply asked about it, he denied it. Saying that it was okay to keep some things in our lives from each other but when it comes to me wanting to keep some things private it’s not allowed.

I just don’t know what to do cause he doesn’t think it’s okay for me but it is fine for him and me not wanting to talk about things is all my fault.

I want a real solution not just to be told to break up

i was browsing through this site and forgot i had listed this!! funny… me and my boyfriend ended up breaking up, and then he went psycho and started threatening to send guys after me to beat me up, and started calling my guy friends and harrassing them and was spreading rumours around town about me…. fun!!

hindsight is 20/20, huh?? think about what you’re fighting about: if it’s stupid shit, or he makes you FEEL like shit at all – he’s not worth it!!!

We broke up. It was really the ONLY way to stop the hating.

i’ve been with my guy for a little over a year. things were perfect at first, like most relationships are in the beginning. then it got very sour. he started to do things that really upset me. and in return i became a grade A beeyotch. today, he accused me of always starting fights with him. but i always think about past shit he has done, and it makes me angry/depressed. i can’t really help it. i really want our relationship to improve 110%, but i don’t know where to start. Any help?

2day we fought…...... again. it’s usually me who starts the fights. i do it because im so frustrated with something he has done or sed or not done or not sed. u know.

he it such a simple, narrow minded guy and i feel im quite complex and openminded so we clash. we do however have many similarities 2. we have similar morals and goals so we could have a good future together. soemtimes i want to marry him…. but i fear we will fight more than we love.

3yrs together- we are at a point when we need to decide if we will fight for forever or call it quits.

i dont want to waste my youth but i dont want to lose a potentially great life partner.

Any advise on how i could calm myself when i feel frustrated?

its not worth trying with him. we broke up.
better than fighting. now i have a new amazing boyfriend. and we dont fight. and we have been going out for about a month. me and dave, were fighting within like the first three weeks.

we’re “just friends” now. who knows how long that will last. either we’ll get back together, or we won’t continue a close frinedship. i’m not going to push anything. i am going to force myself to stop fighting with him. i just won’t fight with him. i’m not going to do it. if i want peace, it has to start with me, not with him, or with anyone else.