Stop beating myself because I'm not perfect

so some of my actions do not fit on the perfection of the day, how people plan things or i plan things for my self. when i dont meet these plans i mentally abuse myself with a lot of negative talk of depreciation. i tired of it. why out of all people would i torturize myself over things that in some instances are small.
if others know what i speak about. please stop. i need balance some things i should judge, have remorse etc, but others its harmful bashing.

peace

My boyfriend wants me to be like Simone Simons.
He precises that I’m not as thin as her, and that she’s a very good singer.
Punching my stomach is the only answer.

I’m sick of crying all the time because I’m not perfect. But every once in a while I realise that perfection is unattainable and everyone i know accepts me for me except me. So now I aim to make that realisation permenant. Wish me luck!

i’ve gotten over this!
one of the hardest things to come through, because it becaomes so self-perpetuating it’s difficult to break the cycle. No doubt it will come back at some stage, these things tend to come and go anyhow, but for now, i’m feeling really excited and positive about my progress and where it is i’m going, without having to beat myself up bout it all.
This book is amazing – Feeling Good; The new mood therapy by David D. Burns – if not a bit hard to stomach at times because as he describes exactly what you’ve been doing to yourself and feeling, you realise that you’re not the only one and that there is a way out.
Take courage – you can do it!

Yep, you read that right. I’m going to try to stop trying to improve my self-esteem. This isn’t going to be easy for me. It feels very unnatural and I won’t be able to let go easily. But, I’ve been thinking and reading about this a lot lately and I don’t think I’ll ever really feel good about myself with the approach I had. I have an image in my mind of a “good person” and I try to embody those qualities. But I can never measure up to my own standards (hence this goal). So, I thought that I needed a more realistic picture of what I must be to what? Be good? Be OK? Be as good as other people? Be average? Better than 70% of the population? Oh, yes, and I must be more humble, too. Here was my first roadblock on this path – I couldn’t define what I thought that I must be (good, OK, successful?) or to what standard (average, better than a criminal? Mother Teresa?). I turned to the Internet (where else to get information on mental health issues?) and I learned a new concept (to me) – the solution to poor self-esteem isn’t to develop good self-esteem. It’s to stop judging oneself altogether – unconditional self acceptance. I am certain that I’ve heard of unconditional self acceptance before, but I didn’t really understand the difference between that concept and self-esteem. Well, maybe I understood, but I didn’t accept the idea. I want to judge myself and feel good about that judgment. Being judged by others and coming out OK would be even better. Once I told a therapist “I don’t want to be told that I’m OK by someone who thinks that everyone is OK. I want to be told that I’m OK by a very judgmental person.” Looking back I’m amazed that those statements weren’t taken as warning signs about my core issues. But, they weren’t. Or maybe I wasn’t ready then, but I think I am now. I don’t want to continue beating myself because I’m not perfect. I want to be secure, confident, and happy – to unconditionally accept myself.

I am human and that’s enough.

towards the accomplishment of this goal today.

what a blessing it is not to carry the burden of being perfect.

I feel awful today because I couldn’t be with someone who needed me. I hope she can forgive me. I was there in my thoughts and prayers, I wish I could have done more for her. She’s such a special person, I owe her so much, she always knows the right thing to say and she’s been a blessing in my life. I didn’t want to disappoint her or leave her alone to deal with her sadness.

Definitely steps! :)