Have no expectations

I really don´t know how I can kill the expectations that don´t seem willing in letting me go , sort of speak. Just got out of what seemed like a beginning of a relationship , in a rather abrupt way , and now I think that there are still things that need to be said , but how can I do this properly ? I have been thinking about sending her an email , saying that even though she doesn´t want to talk to me again ( on Msn at least ) , we could still keep in touch through email , I have even thought about the things that I´m going to say , but my biggest problem is : will she reply ? No matter how hard I try , I always find myself believing that I will hear something from her , and these expectations are driving me mad , so how can I get rid of them ? Should I take a risk and send the email anyway , and really pretend that nothing happened in case she doesn´t reply ? Or should I just stay put and don´t do anything at all ?

While I think having a positive approach to life is a good thing, in our day and age it certainly is not practical to have too much faith in people. People will disappointment you, just give them time. Best to save our expectations for ourselves.

As the Buddhists say:
“Let go of expectations. Having done so, whenever something good happens, we will be content.”

Just letting things not bother me! I’m slowly getting there.

I feel much better in a lot of circumstances now. I think I just need to apply this principle to the big bad past as well, so that my present calmness can have completion.

I’m not getting the balance right. I’m getting pessimestic and getting depressed beacuse of it. But I am a lot calmer in the car when my sister drives like a maniac!

...Like service at a restaurant. I’ve been a waitress for 80% of my working life and I find that I always nit-pick other waitress’ services. However, I do sometimes feel that I have a justibfiable expecation… I mean, surely every other customer expects a smile and a ‘is there anything else I can help you with?’ too?

They say that if you have great expectations then you must be a very optimistic person. You get angry because you are optimistic and therfore have expectations of the world around you. I’m working slowly of bringing down my optimism, not too much, just so that it is equal to my cynicism and therefore erase any expectations I might have.

Life would be much happier without them.
stop living in the future and the past.
just live, y’know?

Since I’ve been widowed, I’ve been trying to build myself a new life by making new friends. I’ve recently noticed I’ve been expecting too much from these new found friends (one in particular) hence leading to much disappointment which has lead to much depression.
I’m doing better about having no expectations but I know I have a long way to go.

life really sucks….that’s why i adopted this goal. And it really works….until i forget that that’s what i’m meant to be doing…(not having any expectations)....but i’m working on it…