develop conversational skills

I’m really bad at thins. Mostly because I’m really bad at coming up with questions to ask the other person. What’s worse is that I just had the most awkward conversation EVER with certain teachers at my high school (where I went back for a visit the other day) with whom I used to be able to have amazing conversations with.

I think it might have something to do with my limited social group at college. I had such a large group of friends in HS and then…as a result of several things (living situation, my own shyness etc.) I don’t have such a group at college. As a result my conversation skills haven’t had as much practice and they have died. I can still have good conversations with my close friends…but its small talk with people with whom I am not so close that I need to work on.

I think this is important because people are important. I want people to be comfortable around me and to be able to express myself in the speed of conversation effectively.

I don’t know why, but once I was speaking with a girl I was working with and she made a comment in passing that she likes to just “chat” with her neighbor. For some reason, that word has stuck with me and gives me a picture of what I hope to be able to do.

It has helped me when I needed to have a conversation with someone to say “Let’s chat about this.” As I write this, it doesn’t seem to make any sense but the word itself and all that it conjures up in my mind makes it easier to think about nd approach conversation.

For what it’s worth. . . Maybe chatting isn’t so threatening?

I am really very poor in making conversation. It is very difficult for me to get things going and keep them going. Part of the problem is that I am not afraid of silence and really enjoy being alone. However, none of that is an excuse for me not to work on this area.

I have a couple of books! Ha, I bet you would not have figured that out! I will see if I can plan some time to work through them and make an effort to improve myself in this.

Of course, as I write this I see that there are sponsored links that say they can help. I don’t think I need to buy anything just get to work with what I have.