forget someone

So, this is quite a big issue for me…
Not only I have to forget someone, I have to let it go and let go the past before that someone….

It was quite complicated at the time…
I was getting involved with this friend (N.) but we both knew that it was going to a no way road, but still, because we were both needing someone for confort and some love, we decided to take as faar as we could…
But at some point I was starting to fall for him, though he wasn’t falling for me… So, I put some pressure on and we were driving ourselves mad, and the problems began…
And then, I met someone. This someone (C.) was willing to give me everything that N. wasn’t. So, I made a choice. I left N. and started dating C. At first, it was the dreamy part of a relationship but still not very natural for me. But after a couple of weeks, we seemed perfect for each other. And he seemed to be a really nice guy. After a few months our lifes got complicated. He was going to another country, with and ocean in the midlle of us, and I was staying by myself. But still, we stayed together… Those final months we was still with me were somewhat torbulent… He was now showing himself and N. was trying to tell me that he was regret that he left me walk away and that he was in love with me, and C. was not the guy I thought he was… Well, I didn’t belive him. I was insanly crazy for C. and our connection was so strong that I couldn’t leave him… Plus, N. could just be doing that for jealousy… At this point I was totally dependent of someone, because I was so fragile psichologically.
And then, C. left the country but we were still together. We thought our love was strong enough to hold us together… I didn’t see him for 9 mounths… In all this period a lot of things happend: N. found another girl. Still we had a moment together but fought after that and never spoke again. And things with C. were not very good: he was no longer focused on me. It was easy for him to ignore me and not pay attention to me, somehow.
I didn’t feel alone. It was worse than that: I felt ignored.
So, than for some mounths I messed up my hole life, did things I shouldn’t do, but suffered more than ever. Until C. forget tottaly our 1st anniversary. The next day I had to broke up up with his phone machine, because not even for break up with me he could answer the phone! And then, for some mounths I was in the dark…

I started to talk with N., because we were working toghether, but everything so superficial…

C. came back for his vacations and I tried everything to get who I thought that was the love of my life. Well, that actually didn’t go quite well. He revealed his true dark and ugly colors and nothing that we did and said before was no longer making sense…

Time passed by…

2 days ago I was in a hotel room with N., just talking.
And again, we came in the subject.
But this time we didn’t fight. I cried, a lot, instead.

He feels guilty that he did what he did and that it lead me to C., causing me all the pain that I still have in my heart.
I feel guilty that I didn’t insist on him just a litlle bit more, and maybe now we could still be together. I feel guilty that I didn’t listen to him when he told me that C. was not ho I thought he was. I also feel guilty that I let him find his girlfriend and now he is happy with her, but not with me.

We both feel that we could be togheter, put we went in parallel ways. But the only difference between us is that I crashed myself in the midlle. He didn’t.

He put me to sleep that night and went to his room.
I stayed there thinking if he could ever think of me again and if I could ever make him happy, like I once wanted.
I stayed lying there thinking in the guy that I was supposed to marry, that I had givven everithing of me and then he just let me know that I was not the most important thing in his life, like he was for me…

I don’t love them both.
I will always love C. and will always not know what could have been with N.

but…

for now, to stop the damage in my heart

I have to forget them both. I have to let them go for real.

when i read this i realize even more how much i need to let go for myself. because it is so true ANYONE WHO CAUSES SO MUCH PAIN IS NOT WORTH REMEMBERING!!!! but why why why cant i let go. i know this will help me so much in my goal to become happy. i am a great person and i need to realize that and realize that it is his loss he is losing his wonderful son and a woman who loved him dearly. i want to be able to let go and live my life happily. i know people divorce and such after 20 or more years together! so i have to realize that if someone doesnt love me i just have to for the sake of myself let go. i really hope i can do this :(

okay im not sure its possible to forget someone..but i think im at the point where ive realized the person does me no good..and im happy with it..its as close as ill come to forgetting ..for the time being atleast : )

because anyone who causes so much pain is not worth remembering.

i had been into a relationship of two years and all was goin fine until i went to different city for furthur studies with mutual concent. noe she also moved to a different city and slowly has started neglecting me and her approach shows things are not same as before and day by day i am becoming less important for her as is evident that despite six months of not seeing each other still she expresses no intension to meet..i love her a lot and never had thought that i had to face this and was commite dfor life..i dont know the excat reason of same(though she had affair earliers, but when we were together,i used to feel she loves me a lot). i dont want any form of hurt to her, i just want to forget her or say want to be less effected by her as presently i am not all able to concentrate on my studies or anything..i am in deep mental trouble..

He was afriend of mine when he started flirting me out and then i thought that he is really into me and i have given everything, i have been very nice to him that i know he feels it but everytime i speak about what i feel for him, he gets mad at me for a reason i dont know. Until i found out that he is already committed to someone in the US and he never told me about it. I’m ready to accept everything but he lied.although i forgave him ang ignore that fact and still i love him so much. i want to forget about him and move on to my life because i deserve a better man but its hard, and im trying reaaly hard. I know that someday, he will come to me telling me he loves me too. . . that time i’m already inlove with someone else who really deserve my everlasting love.

i’m trying to forget someone whom i loved for 3 yrs.
i met him at my school… and we were both enrolled in a voice lesson! first time i heard his voice and i felt somethin different about him… and he became my crush… not yet love but puppy love cuz im still young at that point.when christmas is about to come he promised me a gift…but he didnt gave it to me anyway! then days and months past and i actually dont feel anything for him anymore… then when im in 6th grade we became friends and i’m so happy for that! then when i graduated he sent me a comment on fs…saying that he will give his x-mas gift on the next school year!... but too late for that..im going to study at NEW JERSEY..ughhh…but when im in new york w/ my cousins… he got online at his messenger and accidentally my cousin chatted w/ him..so they talk and know each other! then he fell inlove w/ my cousin! ouch!!! then he courted my cousin and he asked me to be the bridge of them and that hurt so much! then days and months passed.. i succesfully forget about hiM! and the day has come that i need to go back to the philippines…then i saw him again! but the feeling arent there anymore… i think? then he continued courting my cousin but my cousin doesnt like him! then another day come… while i was cleaning at our classroom suddenly my heart beat soo fast… and i looked outside i saw him w/ the gift he promised me!!! and thats only the part i can share!!! so! how can i forget him?

I want to forget two people. One was someone who I was once with more than a year ago…I don’t really have many feelings for him anymore, but I always wonder how he’s doing and I always seem to think about him once a day…
The other person is just someone who I wish I could live in her shoes for just one day. She has everything I always wanted. She gets away with everything so easily. I just wish that I didn’t care anymore.

I’m also trying to forget the guy i love! But i can’t and foolishly i got involved with him again! Part of me wants to persist and continue the relationship and part of me asking me to forget him! I really don’t know what to do.

i want to get involved with new people around me n forget someone who was once so special 4 me