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I have thought and learned a lot about procrastination over the past year. Sometimes you can control it, sometimes not so much (such as when you are genuinely overwhelmed), and sometimes what I thought was procrastination turned out to be something else, like lack of energy or re-prioritising.
According to research, most procrastination comes from avoiding discomfort. The discomfort is often subtle and hard to recognise you’re even feeling it. The discomfort can be minor and physical (e.g. it is too cold to shave the cat, I can’t be bothered) or conceptual (e.g. what if my cat shaving technique isn’t good enough and I fail? I can’t picture the outcome. What if people judge me?) or emotional (e.g. I’m bored, and I’ve put of shaving the cat for so long that thinking about it makes me feel guilty and weird).
The task might require discomfort (such as getting up off your bottom) so you avoid it, and then you feel discomfort about avoiding it so you avoid it even more to avoid the discomfort of feeling the new emotional discomfort and the original discomfort combined.
This is why you tend to procrastinate more if you are already experiencing a lot of discomfort (e.g. you’re chronically ill, you’re experiencing insomnia, you’re on a diet, changing jobs, in a crap relationship, and so on). You are also more likely to procrastinate if you are surrounded by a lot of comfort, because it is so easy to just… stay… cosy. Mmm.
In order to stop procrastinating, you have to do things that make you uncomfortable.
You also have to stop doing things that make you comfortable, especially when those things involve zoning out or compensating for the avoided task. When you feel bad about not doing something, you engage in another task like cleaning or organising or apologising or watching TV to make yourself feel better. You can manipulate this maladaptive coping technique by turning it into something know as structured procrastination, where by you procrastinate on a project that isn’t very important and use your avoidance of that goal to drive you towards tasks that need to be finished. This only works if the goal that you are avoiding both causes anxiety and discomfort, but also isn’t something that you actually have to or want to do.
In the past, I knew my procrastination was an inconvenience to others. In the last few months I have tried to organise a surprise project for a friend. The friend also has ME and was diagnosed with cancer last year. I set up a secret group of Facebook, added mutual friends, and they added their mutual friends. All in all, over 80 friends of this person have been added. 22 of them said they would definitely like to help with the project. Eight of them have followed through. Ten days to go.
I remind myself to just go with the flow with this goal, but it is stressful receiving messages from people berating themselves for not doing anything and then watching them to continue to procrastinate. Berating yourself is another factor that drives procrastination: it is a compensatory action, and either makes you feel like you have done something or/and increases your anxiety. Research shows that those who forgive and are kind to themselves and accept responsibility are much more likely to move on and finish or start the discomforting task. Those that either berate or just excuse themselves (i.e. only forgive and are kind and leave out the responsibility) are not so likely to finish or even start the task. Out of my little group, it does seem as though that the more apologetic someone is the more likely it is that they will drop out.
Sometimes it is hard not to be annoyed.
All of this has made me realise that procrastination has a huge social impact, not just a negative personal one. Knowing that I have to move towards discomfort has helped a lot when dealing with tasks I procrastinate on. Overcoming procrastination has taken on a new sense of social duty (which can be a dirty word nowadays). It wouldn’t just benefit me to procrastinate less: I owe it to other people.
And the cat.
As with any new muscle, you need to exercise your tolerance of discomfort. Even when a task seems completely personal and not at all social, you are much more likely to succeed in your social goals and duties (and generally be less annoying) if you practice facing any point of procrastination.2 weeks ago
lets try to do smth
week 1 tue-tue
1. cook everyday
2. clean and organise my appartment
- my room
3. k 2 weeks ago
Particularly on work and other big projects. I know I do it partially because I’m afraid of tackling big things and failing but it only makes it worse in the long run. 2 weeks ago