Fall in love with my best friend

i wanna have a girl as a friend and one day tell her i love her

well as long as i could remember my best friend has been my nabor, she has almost always been there. A few years ago we talked and made our feelings for eachother clear, we loved eachother. We dated for about a year or 2. Everything wasnt happy go lucky, we would argue fequently. i loved her with all my heart, and i still love her but i couldnt handle the stress of the relationship but i wasnt sure how to end it, she wasnt stable i wasnt even sure if she coud handle the break up. But i was the “bad guy” and i broke it off.

She was crushed, i hate the fact that she was hurt but i told myself that she would move on and be happy, happier then if she would have stayed with me. I moved on and was happy to a point i was with a guy for about 8 months but we ended and even after that it was totally over untel 2 months after that. Well in that 2 months my friend finally found the strength to move on and found a guy she is in love with we rekendled our friendship and now share all our thoughts.

About 7 months have past ive been suporting my bestfriend as she has troubles with her boyfriend. I remind her to stand strong for what she wants and its important for her to stay happy. They have worked out most of there problem but lastnight she told me that her feelings for me are growing but she still loves her bofriend.

im not sure what to do because i will always love her but i dont want to lead her on and have her mess up things with her boyfriend and i get unsure and hurt her again.

hey everyone
i was reading through some of these blogs and thought i should share my own story.
i came to secondary school with no friends. i quickly made friends with a girl called emily. (i myself am female) now as the years went by, we joined with other friends to make a group of 5, but me and emily always were really really close. after about a year, i started to believe i had feelings for her more than a friend. now i was only 12, and as far as i knew i was straight. so i presumed it would go away. after 4 years, i still felt exactly the same. i was 15, and i’d tried getting with other people (girls) and replace the gap i had for emily. as much as i tried, i could not do it. i felt awful because whenever my girlfriends told me how they felt about me, i’d tell them what i felt for them, but it would actually be how i felt for emily.
for months and months i was with this one girl, who really used and abused me. i was really miserable, and longed to be with emily, and on my 17th birthday i realised i was really in love with her. as much as i longed for it, i never saw the same feelings from her. we would joke around, but she often made homophobic remarks, and told me if one of her friends ever said they liked her in that way, she’d freak out.
as terrible as this made me feel, i tried my best to get over her. but i t was literally impossible. for a few weeks i put her to the back of my mind, but when i finally got rid of my girlfriend emily was so supportive, so kind and thoughtful, i found myself falling for her harder than ever before.
it was then i decided i was tired of sitting around and watching my dream walk straight past me, and i decided to act. one night when she was staying at me house, she was laying in my arms, (something we often did and i loved) and talking, and then i simply turned around and kissed her. as i did it i panicked so so much, but was gob smacked when she rolled ontop of my and kissed me back so passionately.
afterwards, we talked for hours, spilling our hearts out.
it turned out for years she had been desperate to be the one holding my hand. and as she watched me get used by this girl, it broke her heart. she’d turned to drink, and even thoughts of suicide, as she knew she only wanted me. she told me she was straight, but was in love with me. and that she could only imagine me in her future.
that night was the happiest night of my life, and 17 months on we are still together. we have such a close bond, we’ve spend a massive portion of our lives as best friends, and now it has bloomed into true love.

my advice to you all, is to go for it. it is worth risking your friendship to have a chance at what i now have and cherrish.
if they are that gooder person, surely they wouldnt say no and chuck you in a bush anyway.
i’d say follow your heart. because if in years to come, you go your seperate ways, you’ll have missed your chance and you’ll always wonder what if.
it was the best decision i ever made. it took my 5 years to pluck up the courage, but im going to spend the rest of my life being glad i did it.

hope this helps :]
good luck to you all in the future
if you are truly in love with them, throw yourself on the line.
the worst won’t happen, and you can’t begin to imagine the best.
goodluck :]

why

시 작에 확신하지 못했지만 그가 나에게 희망을 절대로 포기했다. 나와 대기하고 심지어 내가 그에게 나쁜 오전 도와주세요. 내가 몇 번이나 그를 다치게하지만 그는 결코 들어가지. 그럼 내가 뭘해야하고 뭘하지 않은 실행 미처 보지. 난 내 스스로 거울을 보면 내가 얼마나 수치심을 느낀 이유없이 그를 다치게했다. 너무 많이 보여주지하지만 그는 결코 그와 난 그에게 아무것도 있지만 고통을주고있다.

왜냐하면 그가 나에게 희망을 절대로 포기할 상황은 타자를 시작했다. 인생 – 사랑을주고 받아입니다. 그들은 당신이 모든 것을주고 있지만 뭔가를 줘야합니다.

난 강력하게 친한 친구와 사랑에 빠지게하는 것이 좋습니다. 그가 당신에 대한 희망을 포기하지 않을 것이 무슨 문제 없어. 사랑에 빠지지만 쉽게 관계를 유지하기 힘들지만, 가장 친한 친구와 함께 할 가치가 있어요.

yup thats my babe. we been together since may of 2007. something interesting … he is a couple years younger than me, hehe. i met him when i was a senior in HS, while he was a sophomore.

we became best friends, told eachother EVERYTHING. except for the fact that i wanted more. i was afraid to lose him n BLAH BLAH, same for him. o ya did i mention he wanted more too. we were both waiting for the other to say something. FUNNY isn’t it?? how things end up. but this is the boy i’m gonna marry. he’s the ONE.

thru happy times and thru the worst of course, we are making it happen. if you want something go after it, it won’t stick around chasing you. MAKE IT HAPPEN, together TWO can make it work. GOOD LUCK to those stuck in the friend zone.

I do not really know what is happening in my head.I am really confused.I have a boyfriend 6 mounths and I have a great time with him he loves me and…but I think I love my best friend or…sth like that.Two years ago he was in love with me but than I didn t want to be with him and we became first good friends now we are best.We spend a lot of time together and have a fun.I just can t without him anymore he is always with me in good and bed times.He, he and I are so close to eachother . The fact is that I do not really know what I want and I’m too afraid of admitting to myself that I’m IN LOVE with him because there’s no certainty about how he feels and I do not want to lose him.He is very spcial to me and i like everything about him.So what to do ???

I cant believe how many blogs ive read here that are exactly the same as my predicament!! But im torn, i really am. Ive had my best friend since i was in primary/elementary school. We were inseperable ever since, we lived around the corner from eachother, and no matter what we did we always did it together, even if it was just watching crap tv. I never knew what he thought of me, sometimes i felt a spark, but mostly we just mucked around, acting like idiots and wrestling like school kids. Our mums are best friends, as are our dads and little brothers, and it just seems like it would be so perfect if we did go for it. All my other friends were quickly convinced that this was the guy for me. After high school i moved about an hour away from him. We still keep in touch, but its not the same. Im now halfway through a law degree and everyone i know is still pushing for us to go together. His mum in particular is adamant that we will someday. Shes already calling me her daughter in law, and has since primary school. We tried it in high school, we attempted to date for a week, but i didnt have the heart to risk our friendship so i quickly ended it. Ive felt guilty ever since! i even dream about it sometimes. I love him dearly, i go crazy when i dont see him but i just dont think i can let myself be attracted to him physically, mostly out of fear. The worst part is I currently have a boyfriend of one year who has no idea i feel this way. im just worried that when i finally make up my mind it will be too late…is there really such a thing as fate??

I’ve been through alot, met alot of bad people, and considered them friends.

that is of course, until i met him.
I can go on for hours about the millions of things about him that make me love him, make me want to be with him all the time, hear his voice, see his face and have him feel the same way towards me.

I question, is it love? Or am I just so amazed by the best person I’ve ever met in my life, maybe I’m just shell-shocked by him, maybe I really am in love with him. But I do know that he is my best friend, and I certainly do love him, with my whole entire heart and existence. But IN LOVE?
I wonder.
I met him through a friend of mine, I really didn’t like him at first. He and said friend dated for the longest minute and a half of my life, and broke up, and they don’t exactly speak any more. That girl isn’t as good of a friend as she once was. But he, he and I are so close to eachother, no secrets, none, except for this one.
And it kills me, I could one hundred percent go up to him and actually have a conversation about this.
Me: “I really like you, I might be in love with you, I think you’re amazing, and I worry that you don’t feel the same way as I do.”
And he would listen to me, and be just as amazing as he always is, but I’m too afraid of admitting to myself that I’m IN LOVE with him, because there’s no certainty about how he feels and it might just literally crush me.

ok so heres my story….i entered a new high school and i met new people made new friends…
in one of my classes there was this guy that was weird like a skaterboy dreesed in black and everytime he got near me i got scared and when he sat next 2 me i would ask the teacher if i could go 2 da bathroom….
i started talking to him one day and he was really cool and then we started talking more and more and now we were talking every single day joking around and eveything…..i kinda thought he had feelings for me but i thought to myslef never never hes so not my type…..i started liking thiz other guy but he turnd out to be a jerk!
the skaterboy said he was stupid to just forget him..then i started to realize that he was the nicest sweetest guy ever…..but then he told me he liked this gurl and i got really jeouluz but i told him i was happy for him and that he should totally got for it but idk….hes my best friend and idk if its love or im just confused or wat ={