stop gossiping

Gossip is childish, mean, destructive and creates pointless hate and negative energy. At the office, there is a group of people that talk about others, and they say really nasty things about really good people, people who don’t deserve it. Gossipy people feel bad about themselves and need to make themselves feel better by talking trash about others. I’m like this. I don’t want to be like this anymore. I want to be better.

How do you know who to trust with personal problems? I need to talk to someone about things that are going on within my family but I have no one to talk to. I suppose I always have Eddie to vent to. Maybe I just need to get it all off my chest to him and then leave it at that.

Everytime I see a certain person I feel like i have been caught in a shit storm. I don’t think I joined in too much maybe just agreed with some of the points she made … weird. I don’t want to start bitching about people I hardly know.

And I find because she is gossiping I have permission to gossip too. It’s only with this one person that I do this! It totally rubs off on me. Am I that influenced by others?

I was enjoying having a good chat today but then I was venting about my sister (prolly cos I’m actually worried) and my mum too. It has been a stressful time lately and maybe i just wanted to get it off my chest. But then I feel like I have betrayed my family by divulging certain bits of information about them. So I will zip my lips in future.

I really need the gossip band on too! I don’t know what to do … avoid this person or not.

I haven’t been doing this as much. I do sometimes, but I feel this is normal venting – which is healthy. I’ll mark this as done.

Growing up I remember my mom and my sister always gossipping…and I HATED it! I can’t believe that now I’m behaving the same way. I’ve gotten really bad about it at work especially. I know part of it is because they all do it so much and so it’s really hard to resist. But that’s no excuse and I know it. I also realize that a lot of it has to do with trying to make myself feel as if I’m perfect or above the same behavior and therefore, somehow better than other people. What I’ve lost sight of is how bad it makes me look and how untrustworthy other people may begin to find me because of it. I agree with many of the other posts that it makes me feel awful and angry about myself. I love the gossip bracelet idea. I’m going to give that a try.

I’m doing much better this summer. I haven’t stopped completely but I’m definitely making progress.

this is going good.I am making progress. Yesterday I wanted to gossip about something and I remembered my goal – and yes I didn’t do it! i just changed subject.

I believe that gossiping is a way to make you feel better. you “accuse” someone else in order to make yourself look higher / better. I am very interesting person, educated and very active, nice to my friends, I have given love and taken love and gossiping should not be an option. I know that right now I am not feeling very self confident, and I know exactly why, but I have to get over it and let people live their life without my bad comments….

it’s been bad recently. i need to shut my pie hole. i may listen, but will try not to actively participate.

How on earth do you stop listening to an exteremly juicy story about people you know and people you dont know. I must stop reading gossip mags and blogs, that will help me first. Second I must not entertain the gossiper,by being a gossipee. Just listen and don’t provide an opinion no matter how juicy the story maybe or how ridiculous the person being gossiped about has behaved. Practice non judgement!

This sounds pathetic, but I haven’t had anybody to actually gossip with. So I’ve been doing VERY well on this goal. HA. It’s good though, and I feel a lot better about myself.