make friends in my new city

hi!

give a chance 2 be crazy buat u dear.

So i moved to France for 6 months and basically got to recreate my whole persona. It was really great being all alone not knowing a single sole, speaking in a language other than English, and i met so many life long friends.

Make new friends but keep the old.

You don’t have to move cities but maybe it’s your old crew that’s keeping you from new friends.

I actually succeeded at doing this. Leaving has really reminded me how far I’ve come (and who I’m leaving behind). My good friends at work, the two wonderful ladies at the electrologyst, and my one non-work friend (hah). I’ve gotten a lot of hugs and there are a lot of people I’ll miss. My married work friend had me over last weekend and I met her husband and another of their friends. Hell, if I’d kept this up, who knows how far I could’ve come.

I still think fondly of the grocery store clerks from my Brooklyn summers.

So I didn’t make a lot of friends outside of work quickly or ever end up going to church… that’s ok.

I’ve moved abroad to be closer to my boyf although we still live at opposite ends of the country because of work commitments. I’ve been in Bergamo for about 3months now and I’m finding it pretty tough to make friends. Any advice would be seriously appreciated! It doesn’t help that my work is really time consuming and nearly all of my colleagues are considerably older than me so it’s tough to socialise that way.

I moved to another country, moved in with my sig. other, and for months, basically the only people we saw were his friends, his family, etc.

I’m not the most outgoing person… so I was happy to start working after four months. Now I’ve got ONE good friend here, so that’s a start, plus plenty of other people to talk to during the day.

I’ve gone to a dance class twice in the past month (with a different, new coworker), but I’ve been putting off going to church: I’m not a morning person and my partner just isn’t interested in joining me, so both of those two things are my sunday-morning obstacles. I’m going to try to make time for this in November, though.

Tomorrow night, we asked one of our few friends here to invite 6 people he knows, over to our house for dinner. Hope it goes smoothly without too much awkwardness!

I left my friends and family when I moved to Seattle in 2000. I didn’t know anyone up here and had no idea how to put down roots. For years, the only friends I made were work friends and, really, after spending 40+ hours a week with those people, who wants to spend evenings and weekends with them, too?

I thought I would befriend my neighbors or just meet people accidentally in my small community. It doesn’t work that way (for me, at least). Only recently did I discover that you meet people doing hobby stuff. I started playing softball, took a few fun classes, and even joined a Unitarian Universalist church. I’ve made several new friends in the last year and a half.

Moving in with people my age helped a lot with this… plus the fact that I moved out here to go to graduate school. 2,100 miles away from “home” is the perfect opportunity to have a nervous breakdown but I’ve met others who are as far away as I am. Support is key. I am meeting new people all the time at school. It is a small campus and very small student body so I see people I know for the most part. I’m finding that it isn’t so hard to make friends… the hard part is picking up the phone and making the first move to make plans. I’m going to keep up doing things I want to do, seeking things out… New experiences are so important to changing my attitude and feeling more in control of my life in general… The goal is to radiate positive energy and not be dependent on others for that! Friends will surely follow!

...thing is, all my weekends are taken up with my boyf coming here to see me or me going to see him. I need to see him less for a few months, maybe once a fortnight, otherwise I’ll not make many friends, as my time is limited. I’ve already joined a drama group and got in touch with some people online, so I’m getting there, slowly…! My workmates are nice enough at work but we all work individually, or I’m not in their team, so it’s mostly smalltalk. With Xmas party coming around, hopefully I’ll get somewhere though. We used to go to the pub for lunches but nobody seems to anymore – either that or I don’t get invited!! Good luck everyone!!

We’ve moved to the midwest, and it feels like most everyone is settled in their life with kids and schools and friends they’ve grown up with. Sooner or later we will break through and meet some folks, but no go as of yet.