make peace with my ex

It has been almost 5 months since we’ve last spoken and honestly I prefer it this way. He thinks I hate his guts and is afraid to come near me and I really do prefer it this way. I really could give a rats ass about him anyways. I love not having to deal with the emotional roller coaster that he comes with. Unfortunately we have alot of the same friends in common. If I’m invited somewhere, he’s not and vice versa. It’s just getting to be too much, so I’ve decided it will be best to make peace once and for all. Tonight I’m going to a friend’s birthday bash and I just found out he’s going too. Him being a drama queen, I know he’s going to try to make some deal out of it and make it awkward. We’ll see how it goes.

i used to stress out and feel like projectile vometing when ever i got close to her

she used to be a very ominous. i felt very uneasy around her

but now
im not sure what happened.
i was just tired of feeling so bummed out all the time

i just stopped caring.

its a shame that it had to come to this
its very sad that we probably wont ever talk again.

but she is nothing more than a small nuissance in my life now.

not to say that i did not try to make peace.
i wrote out an appology and i have been civil with her.

we have not spoken i about 3 months.
but that does not mean i have not seen her
[i share a class with her]

i feel any positive change will have to come from her side.
i have done my part.

i just don’t really care anymore.

i really did love her with all my heart at one time.

but now she is just another girl.
i don’t care anymore.
i say this in full honesty.

im just finnaly happy being alone.

It’s been about 2 years since the horrible breakup, the heartbreak, the pain, and the anguish. It was a horrible place and I never want to go back, but I did make it through. It was difficult and a long road. However I realize that it wasn’t about making peace between the two of us or finding a resolution with him. It was about finding peace for myself. There is usually never “closure” or “making peace”. It took a long time because that is what it took for me. Good luck to everyone with the same goal! It’s not easy but you are stronger than it…you deserve better, so don’t give up on yourself!

I suppose I was being naive about this…I realized that I still have a lot of buried anger and resentment…when she is obnoxious to me (quite often) I just get this sickening feeling in my stomach, how can I

a) deal with the present moment without complications from the past?
b) stop doing whatever I do that attracts this crap?

We had a nice calm chat and have agreed not to talk about past hurts or reproach each other and it’s been much better, still a lot of buried bad feelings but definitely 1000% (you read correctly: a thousand percent!) progress compared to before…

I am so glad that I’ve taken this goal seriously, it’s a heavy burden carrying around anger and resentment towards another human being.

I feel lighter already

PS. She even smiled at me warmly and kissed me on the cheek, so I hope I can say ‘I’ve done this’ soon.

Today she called me to apologize and we had a nice calm talk and agreed to be respectful to each other and not talk about past hurts, so I think that I’ve made a little progress here…I hope it continues.

I realized that I can only achieve this goal alone.

She was quite nasty towards me yesterday, a year after breaking up so I will just pray for her happiness and wish her well without trying to be friends.

Although I feel a little bruised still, I don’t feel any resentment towards her so maybe it’s a long process.

I broke up in February this year and still feel ‘bruised’ and would like to make peace with my ex…we both hurt each other and I have tried really hard to forgive her and get on with my life but I feel that the ‘chapter isn’t closed’ yet…

She doesn’t respond to my calls and blames me for everything. I wish that I could just be friends with her and wish her well, though I am still a little angry with her. I feel like I can’t start a relationship until it is resolved. Help…any ideas?

I would like to make peace in my heart about the pain and sorrow and grief I feel about my ex. I can’t change his feelings or his actions, only my reaction and thoughts about them. I’d like to learn how to learn from this lesson and be able to move on without thinking good or bad about him- just let him go.

I once read that only true love can turn into such seething hatred. We’ve been divorced two years and his name still sounds like a vulgarity in my ear.

His family loves me and wants me in their lives, and it hurts them when I don’t show up for family events (baby showers, graduations, christenings, weddings, etc.).

I need to make peace with him, find a place of true forgiveness and let go of the hurt so I can move on and be happy. But I have no idea how to accomplish this. How can I make peace with him when I become all fangs and claws at the sight of him.

It would be easier if he would just die. See what I mean?! I need some help.