Learn when to just say 'No.'

i need to do this, i am nice and i understand where people are coming from when they ask favors from me but i always say yes. i have probably lost alot of time and money helping others and seem never to get repayed…. i guess in friendship, but that seems horrible, like they are only my friend bc i am nice and help them. i do have a life too but its almost like i put others before myself… i dont think saying no is my only problem…mayeb some self confidence would help

I’m the kind of person that doesn’t like to hurt people, and will go to extraordinary lengths to avoid doing so. It’s not that I don’t stand up for myself, I’m not a doormat…but I sometimes go along with things so others don’t get hurt…That doesn’t make much sense, so here’s an example. I find breaking up very hard to do. Sad, but true. When a relationship has run its course, and I feel it’s time to call it a day, it takes me forever to break up with someone. I try to find a way to do it without hurting the other person’s feelings, and basically there never is a way to dump someone nicely. So things drag on and on and I end up getting more and more miserable and realise that things would have been so much better if I’d just been honest in the first place :P

So…...NO!!!! lol