Maybe some people we never get over. I thought I was over her but I still had a feeling. Not sure what the feelings were but there was some sensation. Like a wave of the past maybe? Just remembering all the things that never were… All the what-if’s Just being reminded maybe? ARG. Is totally forgetting the only way to get over her? But I like the memories… I need to accept that this is the way it is… and accept my feelings. Feelings are good. 4 weeks ago

Even though I know I never will completely. He was the one who left. He was the one who came back a year later…and then again after that. But it was never to tell me he wanted to be with me. Only that he was confused, couldn’t stop thinking about me, and that he wanted me in his life somehow. Still, it gave me hope. My feelings hadn’t changed, and as we talked they only became stronger. We’d become involved, but weren’t “together,” and that hurt so much. And yet I couldn’t tell him yes, I definitely want to be with you, because I needed time to regain his trust. By then he’d be gone again, off to be in “real” relationship with someone else. Intentional or not, it’s like I became a sort of fall back plan when it didn’t work out elsewhere, until he was ready to move on. Never again. I told him not to contact me. It’s been four months now. Still miss him. Still hurting…. 1 month ago

I sacrificed a bit of my dignity and dropped by her place, gave her back her favorite book that I’d finished reading, and had a chat about what happened between us. She admitted that “timing” was somewhat of an incomplete reason. She really just wasn’t/isn’t/never will be that into me. It shouldn’t be a reflection of my worth, but it still hurts. I can’t change the narrative that she created for herself that I’m not worthwhile or however she views our supposed incompatibility. Made the mistake of contacting her a couple times after this visit for various reasons: booty call because I was in the neighborhood (which I figured might have the added benefit of annoying her). Won’t do it again. Next relationship, I’m not going to persuade myself that I’m really into someone and willing to put in extra effort while she is convincing herself of the opposite and giving up on it. 2 months ago

I know I need to move on. Right now, it’s still hard to believe that I will find someone I like as much. (Not that I should need someone.) It hurts that she doesn’t feel as strongly about me, and that she can so categorically state that there is no future together. She’s making a mistake in not valuing me as much as she should, I know, but sometimes I doubt myself. Maybe I’m not really worthwhile, unless I can radically transform myself. It could be too late in life for such a big change. I wish I could get some more sleep than 3-4 hours per night since the break-up three weeks ago… 2 months ago

Damn, getting over your ex has been my toughest challenge yet. I adored her, and her children. We got engaged, were trying for a baby, then wham in a space of a week things just went from bad to worse and she broke up with me on my birthday of all days. Every day has been like groundhog day. The nightmares, the memories, the checking the phone to see if she has called and would tell me she had made a massive mistake. Has been hard not contacting her, but I’ve gone without contact for over 2 weeks now, and I know I have to keep it going. Calling her not only is futile it’s detrimental. All I get is further pain, but love really is like a drug isn’t it. I guess I called because I wanted a hit. I just want to move on now, just wish I wasn’t so madly in love. She was my first love, and I hope not my last. I soldier on and want to tell people who are going through a similar thing, just hang in there man. 3 months ago

When do you know when you are really over someone? When you dont wake up and think of them? When they dont pop into your mind at a song, movie, place, phrase – or really anything at all that would remind you of them? When you feel like you arent in love with them anymore or you have finally deleted all of the pictures of the two of you?

Well,after 25 days I decided today is the day I am over it. Love is love and hurt is hurt but it is over now and I cant let him take up any more time in my mind. Sure, I miss him – the good parts and there are reminders every where but I stopped analyzing what happened. I started planning my year and looking forward to all of the great things I am going to do. And I realized if I was important enough to him, I would have heard from him by now. I have accpeted…its his issue – not mine and he has to live with that.

I feel wonderfully free :) 4 months ago

I can listen to the sad and sappy songs I love – including Adele – without feeling sad! Sure, I think of him but when I do the thought “He f—cked up, not me”, immediately follows it – instead of the “what ifs and what could have beens.” I was looking forward to doing fun couple things this year. Now, thanks to 43things, I am looking forward to doing things for me instead. Onwards and upwards… 4 months ago

Finding quotes on pinterest helps me keep a clear head and reminds me I am better off and I will be okay. 4 months ago

I never thought someone would come back into my life after 9 years and we would have an amazing connection the way him and I did. I thought “wow, this is it. This is what it is like to be with a genuinely nice guy in a mature relationship.” He pushed the relationship forward fairly quickly and had no problem telling me how he felt about me. I’d get random texts and kissy emoticons. He made plans for the future. I never saw it coming when he abruptly became distant at Christmas and then broke up with me on New Years Eve. I lost 6 pounds in a week and had an anxiety attack every day. The doctor prescribed me xanax but I really can’t function on it. I really cant function with anxiety attacks either. I just cant stop thinking about how perfect everything was and how his actions were nothing short of amazing…and then they werent. I dont understand how you tell someone “you make me the happiest I’ve ever been” and “Ive never met a girl like you” and then end it because I question him pulling away and after one disagreement (his excuse).

If I can just stop thinking about the person I thought he was and analyzing the relationship then maybe I can move on and feel better. Everyone I talk to says its not me, its him. He isnt mature enough (he had one serious girlfriend 9 years ago and hasnt been in love since), drinks too much (prior to us dating he out with his friends all weekend/every weekend), closed – minded (wants things his way only), wants to hold onto his youth…

As much as I want him to be that guy I fell in love with, I have to stop thinking about how I feel and think about what I deserve.
I guess its better to have it end earlier rather than later when more memories and attachments have been made. 5 months ago

So over him.. I look at his pictures and kinda think wtf was I thinking?? oh well. took a while but put it all behind me. I love my bf and he loves me back, and we are both on a successful life path I can feel it. We take care of each other… Although my ex still pops back in my head once in a while… IT IS OVER. I know it in my heart, and I’m glad it is. It was a terrible relationship, we do not have the same expectations out of life. Well, So moving on. Anyways just renting… I am happy with my current relatioship. It took me 6 months to be over him, and see reality in the face.

Now on to my new life <3 5 months ago

I’ve been in the progress of getting over my ex for a couple of months now. I’ve already cut off all contact with him, deleted his number and any trace of him from my life. I’ve been crying it out almost every night, just to get it out of my system. Music, art and reading have been a really huge help because they help me take my mind off of him. I still think about him every day but I’m not that sad anymore, adjusting to the change is the real challenge. 5 months ago

Getting over him would mean my mood won’t change when he pops into my mind.
I want to forget as if he never excisted. As if I never fell for his bs. The scars he left are deep. but I guess that’s life. I will forget. 5 months ago