After work each day, it is often difficult to transition into a role of interacting with family and significant others, because the objectives and interests of work and home are often very different. Here is a checklist that may help relieve stress, solve nagging problems, and improve your demeanor so you can maybe be more of the person you want to be for those close to you:
After Work Checklist:
After spending 8 hours of having to be constantly positive and on my best social behavior, do I want time alone to not have to be considerate of anyone else?
Are there chores/projects I need to get done or I wish others in my family would do?
Do I need to take some medicine or pain reliever?
Do I need to turn my brain off and get passive stimulation from music, games, reading, or TV?
Are there people I want attention from or to whom I want to give attention?
Do I need to oversee my family members’ tasks (people for whom you are a guardian, like a child or aging parent)?
Do I need food?
Do I need sleep?
Do I want something to look forward to?
Am I lacking something in my life that I miss or that I’ve lost and I want again?
If you don’t answer these kinds of questions and resolve these kinds of regular issues before interacting with your family members each day, you may unnecessarily harm the people close to you, or at the least, make your life and their’s less pleasant than you are capable.
You can’t expect your significant other to ask you all of those questions every evening – that wouldn’t be sensitive or conversational. Such an activity would be overdone. Instead, it is probably best for a person to do these kinds of things for themself. 2 years ago