"Difficult, but worth it."
How I did it: I started off as a miserable person, convinced that I was destined to live that way I did not do anything about it.
Everytime I thought about the mistake I made (even if it was ALL the time, at the begginning) I told myself that there is no point in worrying about it. There is absolutely nothing I can do to change the thing I have done in the past.
I realized that worrying about the mistakes I have made only stops me from fully living my life. I feared new experiences, I was afraid I would make new mistakes just like the old ones and regret them in the future.
I also learnt to forgive myself, before I thought I deserved to be miserable because of the things I've done, that now that I messed up once, I will not get a chance to make things right again.
And all those things could not be less true.
People have new years resolutions, birthday resoltions, lent resolutions... but, the truth is noone needs an occassion to change themselves. People should wake up every morning and say 'Today, I will live my life to the fullest and not bother about the past, because it doesn't matter and there is nothing I can do now, apart from always doing my best.'
You never know what the outcome of what you do will be, maybe the thing what you now consider 'the right thing to do' woul've been a thousand times worse.
Of course, there are mistakes that are obviously wrong, there are mistakes you've done by accident... there is a lot of different types of mistakes - big ones, small ones, horrible ones... but one thing ALL mistakes have in common is that they are irreversible, and only the future can make up for them, so there is no point in beating yourself up.
Lessons & tips: The tip is simple here : Really stop beating yourself up, because old mistakes do not matter anymore and you can't change what you've done.
Beating yourself up only stops you from living your life as you should
be and causes you to make even more mistakes. Therefore, the sooner you
start thinking about how to make the future as great as possible, the
better.
And another thing you should come to terms with is that, you will always make mistakes. But if you learn to stop obsessing over them, they will be (or will seem) smaller and less significant.
At the beggining it's difficult, especially if you (like me) think about the mistakes constantly and get really upset/ embarrassed/ angry etc. But tell yourself 'This is gone, the past, I can learn from the mistake I've made and will never do anything like that again.'
Resources: Inspiring stories of people who have succeded on this site.
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