not get attached so easily!

All my life I’ve been let down and hurt by people. So I have a hard time trusting, but I get so attached to people. For example my best friend hurt me really bad, and in a period of a couple weeks, I was so attached to her. Whenever I couldn’t go to her house because my parents said no, I would feel so upset and almost like my heart was trying to jump out of my chest. I don’t know if it’s anxiety but, I hate that feeling. And I’ve tried not getting attached to people but all that has done, was sabotage those relationships. I think I have a fear of being alone, an it’s like a cruel joke because….I try not to get so attached to people but it’s like my mind and my heart are enemies. I may love this person with my heart, but my mind is telling me not to open myself up for potential hurt. And I’m only 16, but sometimes I feel wiser beyond my years. I loved my grandfather and he hurt me, I loved an ex bf of mine and he abused me, I trusted a volunteer at my elementary school and he hurt me as well. It’s just so much, I feel so conflicted sometimes on how to feel about people.

I get attached easily when a guy shows interest in me and I don’t like the feeling of anxiety it creates, especially if they pull away. I think is because deep down inside I feel lonely and maybe crave attention. I really would like to feel totally ok with myself without needing anybody else to feel good. At times I can accomplish this and feel great but at other times I don’t know what happens that I start feeling lonely again…is like a roller coaster.

I go crazy. Literally. I get very obsessive, whether it be talking about him nonstop, checking his facebook 20 times a day, or remembering every word he said to me, I go crazy. I can feel myself boring my friends because I talk about him way to much but I can’t stop. I realize it takes away from my life- I can’t enjoy anything unless it’s related to him, I don’t hang out with my friends as much and I hurt myself. But now it’s time to change, I know I will feel so much better this way.

Love without loving too much? I have one of those sickening personalities that is slightly obsessive, such as playing a song on repeat 156 times for hours and hours until I finally get sick of it. I continuously eat the same brand of Honey Bunches of Oats (all 10 boxes)... before I switched to Kashi. And no, I don’t have obsessive compulsive behavior, but I do enjoy what I like in great quantities. And once I know I like something, I really like something.

Is it the same way for me and men? Yes. Unfortunately so. Every single guy I consider a potential or am interested in, I instantly start thinking if he has the potential for the future. Why waste your time on ones that you can’t bring home to mom and dad? I’ve already had my share of players, broken hearts, and now dissolved friendships. Yes, I am tired of waiting. I know that is a common complaint, but I also know that I fall too hard with an image that is not all accurate. This is possibly a sign of my own immaturity, maybe once I grow some more (no more emotional growing please __) I can figure out why I love so hard?

I’m not sure why I can like someone so much once I do. Is it desperation? But it doesn’t happen with every guy. Is it naivety? Possibly. Is it idealism? Of course… I am very idealistic.

Suffice to say, I love myself, but I don’t know how many blows my self esteem can take. For some reason there are guys that are interested in me, but that doesn’t raise my self esteem at all. The only time my self esteem is affected is when I get one of those pursuing-then-pulls-away effects. I find that even more offensive because they found something obviously that was wrong with me. If they were never interested, I probably would have never been interested, and everything would have been peachy keen. In any case, I will have to think about this issue further at a later point. For now, it is time to studay.

This has always been a problem for me. A guy would let me know that he likes me, and would start pursuing me, and when it gets to that point I start to get attached. Such that when he pulls away, or it doesn’t work out while we’re only dating, I feel really bad about myself. It’s like a mini-breakup, even if we never officially were.

I’d like to get out of that rut!

i get myself attached so quickly, and the situations it puts me in are discgusting
i give the benefit of the doubt to EVERYONE, which causes me to see the positives ALWAYS no matter how horrible the person is
positives add up to me feeling their perfect
i think i need councelling.

I got way too attached! This time he had strong feelings for me. Problem??? Yes… he’s divorced with kids. I’m much younger, never been married, inexperienced, ect. We tried to figure things out, but it’s not working. We’re both ‘in love’, but there’s more to it than love. :( :( It’s very bittersweet.

the thing with me is that i think maybe for once they will change but they never do and im left looking like a twat

need to make room for other goals thumbs up

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