not get attached so easily!

Love without loving too much? I have one of those sickening personalities that is slightly obsessive, such as playing a song on repeat 156 times for hours and hours until I finally get sick of it. I continuously eat the same brand of Honey Bunches of Oats (all 10 boxes)... before I switched to Kashi. And no, I don’t have obsessive compulsive behavior, but I do enjoy what I like in great quantities. And once I know I like something, I really like something.

Is it the same way for me and men? Yes. Unfortunately so. Every single guy I consider a potential or am interested in, I instantly start thinking if he has the potential for the future. Why waste your time on ones that you can’t bring home to mom and dad? I’ve already had my share of players, broken hearts, and now dissolved friendships. Yes, I am tired of waiting. I know that is a common complaint, but I also know that I fall too hard with an image that is not all accurate. This is possibly a sign of my own immaturity, maybe once I grow some more (no more emotional growing please __) I can figure out why I love so hard?

I’m not sure why I can like someone so much once I do. Is it desperation? But it doesn’t happen with every guy. Is it naivety? Possibly. Is it idealism? Of course… I am very idealistic.

Suffice to say, I love myself, but I don’t know how many blows my self esteem can take. For some reason there are guys that are interested in me, but that doesn’t raise my self esteem at all. The only time my self esteem is affected is when I get one of those pursuing-then-pulls-away effects. I find that even more offensive because they found something obviously that was wrong with me. If they were never interested, I probably would have never been interested, and everything would have been peachy keen. In any case, I will have to think about this issue further at a later point. For now, it is time to studay.

This has always been a problem for me. A guy would let me know that he likes me, and would start pursuing me, and when it gets to that point I start to get attached. Such that when he pulls away, or it doesn’t work out while we’re only dating, I feel really bad about myself. It’s like a mini-breakup, even if we never officially were.

I’d like to get out of that rut!

i get myself attached so quickly, and the situations it puts me in are discgusting
i give the benefit of the doubt to EVERYONE, which causes me to see the positives ALWAYS no matter how horrible the person is
positives add up to me feeling their perfect
i think i need councelling.

I got way too attached! This time he had strong feelings for me. Problem??? Yes… he’s divorced with kids. I’m much younger, never been married, inexperienced, ect. We tried to figure things out, but it’s not working. We’re both ‘in love’, but there’s more to it than love. :( :( It’s very bittersweet.

the thing with me is that i think maybe for once they will change but they never do and im left looking like a twat

need to make room for other goals thumbs up

:(

dude seriously y get attached when u rn’t treated right, right? /=

this is STILL a huge problem for me. I get close to someone, then closer, then he backs away, then I’m TRYING to back away but I cant because Im attatched. Ugh how horrible. You start to wonder if you can just put everything on hold to back away so you dont get emotionally wrapped up again. Now I can back away, but I will still be thinking of him. And that’s the sucky part to deal with.

This is such a HUGE problem for me. Ive been taken advantage of so many times because of how much I care about people and it just continues to happen. I’m just so fed up… I don’t know how to change. I just keep getting attached and getting hurt…