have more patience

I am normally a very patient and low stress kind of guy, until I get on the road and into traffic. Don’t get me wrong I am not an aggressive driver to the extent of riding people’s bumpers and flashing my headlights or following people home, but other drivers who do not follow the simply complex (lol) rules of the road get me a little heated. I tell people that the only time they’ll hear me curse is when I’m driving. I notice that I take a lot ore risk with driving in city traffic and I want to do this as one of my 43 things because I realized that I shouldn’t be taking that risk with other people’s lives let alone my own. I am reading a book, 865 Buddhist Ways to Conquer Life’s Little Challenges , and it has given me quite a bit of information to help tackle this task. It will take some time though because I’ve been in this bad habit for too long. Wish me luck.

I have virtually none for myself, my family, or the people I support at work.

Im going to be honest. I have NO patience. I have a loving husband and three beautiful children. But everyday I find myself flipping my top time after time. I tell myself that Im not going to do this anymore. But of course I wasnt dedicated to it. It lasted maybe a day or two and I’d slip up. This time, Im very dedicated, thats why Im giving this site a try. Im very open to hearing some advice and how others did it. I really need to get myself together, for the sake of my family!

Ok so it didn’t work so well this morning! Come on, give me a brake it’s my first day. Can’t expect me to change overnight, it took me a very long time to “learn” to lose patience. I happen to think i mastered it, doesn’t that get me at least a pat on the back?
Went to the library this morning to print out a blank calendar to keep tract of my eating. The woman behind the counter was wrapping up a huge box with packing tape. Have you ever heard the sound that packing tape makes? especially when your wrapping it around a huge box? Its not a good sound! Ever heard nails on a chalk board? Well, Its 56 times worse than that! So yea, I had a temper tantrum and left. So, now i have no calendar and My blood pressure has temporarily went through the roof :(

Oh, I admit how bad I am at this!. I rarely say anything, but in my head I’m always snapping at people. Namely, my mother! she seems to have a problem with her attention span, and its very aggravating that she only seems to focus on things she likes. I feel that as her daughter, the least she can do is pay attention me…maybe I just need to stop trying to share information about my life with her (shrugs). I guess I have friends for that…

IM STARRING AT THE MOST IMPORTANT PIECE OF ME, AS HE SLEEPS, AND REALIZE THAT I’M 1 STEP CLOSER TO BEING A BETTER ROLE MODEL. THANK YOU!

I have a problem with my attitude, which is closely connected to my patience. If I feel even the slightest bit of negativity from someone Im talking to I Immediately turn sour. Which is crazy because I consider myself to be a very genuine, nice person. If someone asks me for something I give it without a thought, I help people, Im not mean to anyone. But my patience is 0, I have none, when things don’t go my way I get an attitude about the situation and feel terrible afterwards and most times shocked at myself..This goal will be a challenge.

“Patience is a virtue”
Wow I never believed any of that rubbish at first but it really is true. Just hang in there a little while longer and it will turn out better :)

I really think kids learn more by watching their parents than listening to them. For this reason, I need to remember to be a Super Model…Role Model that is! I want my daughter to have calm, peace and serenity as she grows. I never want her to waste her time in life being frustrated. Sometimes the wait is were it is at! Im going to learn to find beauty in the journey so Sophie can someday also!

I added this goal because of my children. They are cute, they deserve the best and I want to be a great mother, but sometimes they can make me sooo mad…
I know they test me and how far they can go. I know it’s not their intention to make me mad. They only have to check out things, try this and that and make sure they get what they want, which is a good thing for them to become self-confident.
Knowing all this made it worth to add this goal and try a thing or two:
My son, he will be two in february, never wants his diaper changed. He refuses to lay down and I used to get very tired of discussing with him that it is necessary for him to let me help him. Most of the time I had to push him down, he cried and I comforted him afterwards – but always with a very guilty feeling.
Now I discuss with him for a while then put him into the bed and walk out of his room for a few seconds. He has some time to think and play with his blanket and when I come back, he wants to lay down on his own, no tears or getting mad involved. It works! He gets what he wants, thinks he wins this first little battle and then gets his diaper changed after all.
Just leaving the room for a few seconds also works in other situations and I am much more comfortable now at home with everything: the cats, the kids, my husband and the rest. Very good for my blood pressure! ;-)