start a conversation with a stranger

Definately a challenge for me. I’m more shy when it comes to this. If someone else initiates the converstation then i;m much more comfortable. I just think that if I start being more outgoing that I can meet a lot more people.

I’ve missed many opportunities. My usual excuse is that I’m in too great of a hurry, but that’s a problem in and of itself isn’t it?

I have to interact with people all week, and because I’m anti-social by nature, I tend to avoid unnecessary conversation in my free time. However, I’ve seen this goal on the lists of others, and it looks interesting. Twice within the last week, I’ve resisted the urge to start speaking with families on vacation whom I’ve overheard at nearby tables in restaurants. I think I’ll try to reach out sometime soon and see what happens.

I do this all the time. It is surprising how many people just want to connect. The trick is to remember that communication is two way, don’t do all the talking. I figure if I want the world to be a warmer place I have to contribute to that goal. Hey! How ya doing?

I get totally tongue-tied, even with people I know, let alone strangers. I need to learn how to strike and keep a conversation going.

I usually always do this, about everyday. But I’m also a waitress and I just want your money. The more I talk, the more they hand out. But I also do this anywhere else, like if I spy something intersting.

I find it easier to strike up conversations with people on planes for some reason. It’s odd. :) But very fun – as all the people have been wonderful to talk to and exceedingly significant. They’ve all said something life-changing to me. I hope to always meet interesting people like them.

by Tower Bridge in London and this grandmotherly lady, a younger woman and a boy sat down next to me. They were just resting because they’d been walking for a while, apparently.

They were discussing whether the British Museum had admission fees or not and since I had just gone a couple of months prior, I chimed in and said no they didn’t. We started talking a little, mostly about London transport. I discovered that the younger woman (the mother of the boy) actually went to the same university as I am going to now.

Talk about small world.

I have too many words in me. Sometimes I have to share them with.. well.. someone. Whoever’s around.

so…last week I went to Calvin Johnson and saw a boy there who looked fine and I kind of wanted to talk to. And then I saw that he had an I’m From Barcelona shirt (which is one of my favorite bands and one that I figured very few people would have heard of…). I didn’t talk to him the first break in between sets, but all through the next band’s show I kept thinking about him and what I’d say to him…and I decided that if he was still there, I would go talk to him, because I knew I would regret it forever if I didn’t!

So I gathered my wits and guts and such and went for it. I talked to him about the shirt and the band and a few of their songs and he asked for my name. I found out he goes to ucsd and then calvin johnson began singing, so I went back to sitting with my friend.

and I talked to him again for a little while after the show. I wanted him to walk out and wait with me, but he was going to interview calvin johnson…and I called my friend (she left because she was super tired and wanted to sleep in her car) and she arrived really quickly, so I didn’t even get a chance to say goodbye.

now I have no way of reaching him what so ever, and the two shows at the same venue I figured he might be at, I looked all night and didn’t see him, and there are like NO good shows there in the next three months…

and I may be despairing. and I’m considering essentially going to every show there (because it’s a really local indie and cheap venue) just in case he’s there…I can’t decide if I want to be optimistic and believe that I’ll see him again or not get my hopes up because I know nothing about him and may just have missed my chance!!

:/