So I think the pressure is coming. I’ve got to make sure I don’t lose site of the relationships health along the way.
Got to make sure my lady wife knows she’s still a sexy, beautiful woman as well as a loving caring mother.
No pressure or anything ;-) 3 years ago
I don’t know what I could have done different. I don’t know how I could have been better. Today, I found out my boyfriend has slept with his ex about 5 times since we started dating. He claims it is not when we were exclusive. So does he get off based on a technicality? He may not have been exclusive to me but there is no one else I would have wanted. I would never sleep with two people in the same time of my life. Of course, I found out through my doctor who informed me I have been infected with Clamydia. Wow. I did my best to make this relationship great and all I got was this Clamydia. I don’t know what to do. This relationship was the most healthy and loving that I have ever been a part of. Do I let him off because all he wanted was “different, meaningless sex”? He says he would never do it if he is committed to me. But what was so different about October to November? Does he really care if I decide to just leave? I love him. 4 years ago
...making his birthday as special as possible makes you happier than your own birthday! 4 years ago
How I did it: I am always looking for ways to be a better person, and I always read articles about how to have a healthy relationship. Be nice, laugh a lot, don't be critical are at the top. Also politely talk things out.
But I think a very important thing is to pick someone who is capable of having a healthy relationship. That was at the top on my list when looking for a husband, and it has paid off. So I'm not taking all the credit here. lol!
Also I think it is important to keep my friends, and I always try to make time for them. This helps keep balance in my life, and I don't put all my needs on my husband.
So I will continue to do this, but I will mark it Done as it is a good habit. Read how I did it… 4 years ago
I make a point of telling him something that is wonderful about him. 4 years ago
My husband wants me to game with him. He even got me a membership. I’m not much into this, but I can do it because it makes him happy and it’s such a little thing so I’m not selfish.
So I’m making a commitment to do this at least a half-hour a day for now. 4 years ago
One of the greatest gifts a person can give to another is “listening.”
Niecy Nash said something in an episode of Clean House that struck me in the heart. She advised a constantly-fighting couple that in order to listen well, we must not anticipate what the other person is saying AND we must not be formulating in our minds what we’re going to say.
I am SO guilty of that! HB listens to my senseless chatter with a smile on his face, yet I interrupt him day in and day out. I will work on this enthusiastically this week. 5 years ago
SecondAvenue inspired me with her post how stale a relationship can be after some time. What happened to the wooing stage? What happened to the “rush” and the exhilaration that comes with every call and touch? When did I stop spending hours in front of a mirror before letting him even take a glimpse of me?
HB is so sweet. He loved me when I was overweight and he still loves me now. I love how his eyes widen when I wear certain clothes today just as they did when I had a hideous muffin top. When a man loves you no matter what shape you are (even naked!), you know you’ve got a gem.
Because I lost so much weight, I’ve worn nothing but baggy clothes, and I think HB is a little tired of it. I’m perfectly comfortable in a t-shirt and jeans and a hat, but I can tell from his eyes that he’d like me to wear clothes more to my new size (“What’s the point of getting a great body when you hide it all the time?” lol). He hasn’t made too many comments but I can tell it bothers him that these days the only shot he gets from me dressing cute is to go out on a date – and whaddaya know! We have TWO dates planned this week: today and tomorrow.
I love HB and appreciate the effort he makes to keep our relationship fresh by taking me on dates and it’s only fair that I make the effort to do it by accepting his generosity and buying new clothes that actually fit me.
So I’m hanging up the sweats tonight… A short shirt or fitted dress I go! 5 years ago
If after a few years of sharing financial responsibilities, making serious plans for the future together, wiping each other’s noses, and seeing each other’s best and worst (including pushing each other’s buttons…), and you’re still sending sexy pics of each other via mobile, you have to conclude that the relationship has still got it going on. 5 years ago
HB found my “stash” of his favorite candies that I hid in a special drawer. His breath practically confessed itself! (And how proud he was as he gave me his best jack-o-lantern grin)
So now I have to find a sneaky new hiding spot.
Little mischievous moments like these are what makes my heart burst with love for this man. 5 years ago
My darling fiance HB loves (understatement!) Skittles candies, and for awhile there, he’d steal packs out of the kitchen that bought primarily to stuff into his lunch. It became this running joke to where I have to frequently change hiding places and pretend to be mad whenever I hear drawers slamming in the kitchen during commercial breaks.
Sooo a couple of weeks ago, I bought a big Halloween bag of smaller bags of Skittles, stuck a post it with cute little inside jokes on each pack, and hid them all over the house and garage. It made me fall in love with him again every time he’d find a pack in a shoe, clipped onto one of his shirts, on the seat of his workout bike, in the drawer of his toolbox, inside his briefcase (I had to sneak that one in while he was in the shower!), in the empty coffee cup he reached for in the cabinet, etc.
Mission: Success! 5 years ago
I just thought of a sweet present for my honey. It’s a long-term project that I will need to work on daily to complete. As to when to give it to him (xmas, bday, vday or longer?), I have yet to decide, but I’m really proud of the idea because it’s so unique. I can’t wait to get started! 5 years ago
Haven’t done this lately, but will be working on it from now on. :) 5 years ago
:) dont want to ruin this one, hes too perfect to loose 5 years ago