stick up for myself

I was involved in an attack – with a whole group of people – and I fought back.

I was the only one. I stuck up for myself and I wasn’t victimized.

This was HUGE for me.

Fifteen people – mostly men – under physical assault – and I – when I was being confronted – fought back. I had nothing taken from me and I wasn’t physically harmed – as much as the others – because I didn’t just take it.

WOW. WOW. WOW. I didn’t realize this was in me. But my anger about not being victimized came forward and I defended myself. I stuck up for myself.

Good outcome. Yea.

I am coming out of the shell that bound me to be nice, not brag, not stand up for my work, etc… I am so out of the shell. I am not quite there yet…but coming out of the deep ocean that had me consumed.

I was going to create a joint venture with someone and when we were close to doing so – he looked at my thinking – and saw the sickness still left in it.

It was good to see the horror in his face – about how I couldn’t see my own worth and value. I am working hard to establish this.

Thankfully, some others see it – are elevating me – putting their faith in me – and delivering me into places I could only have dreamed of being before.

It is good.

This is hard to learn…for all the good girls out there who were taught to be subordinate. I am working on it. I am getting very good at it. Not completely there…but I am getting better and being acknowledged as never before. It is like wading out of a deep pool where I was over my head. I am knee deep. I am going to keep walking. I hope to be out soon. Wait for me…those who live here. I am coming out.

So…i used to defer to others on contracts and allow the lead role to go where it may…even though it was through my efforts – over years – that big things would happen.

That all changes Tuesday. With the inauguration, I am rolling out my new business paradigm that says, “I hold the deal. You sign on with me, you can quit me, but you aren’t taking my work when or if you go. I hold my work, not any one of you. If you aren’t happy go. But the work is mine and the work stays with me.”

:-) New world order….starting Tuesday.

I had a tough mid year but I did stick up for myself – and I got friends and allies to support me very publicly. I am not the one who was wrong and I was not the one tossed out. I made the crazy people FINALLY look like they were crazy and now they are OUT of the project, I am in and things have come full circle once again.

I will never roll over and play dead again!

YEAH! Thanks to those around me who stood with me when I needed it. For those who didn’t, I will remember that, too.

For awhile now, whenever people pick on me, make fun of me, i have never said anything, or proved them wrong. Iv’e just ignored it and moved on. I;m not gunna beat myself up over it, but I know I should say something.
With my family, and cousins and stuff I stick up for myself..but with people who i know, but dont talk to, its a diff story..
I guess i just dont know how to.

next time the rat bastards tried to “get me” I changed my response and it changed the world for me.

YEAH

It worked.

at school im having troubles with people and i want to stick up for myself tell me how to do this and be confident in myself x

This week, I’ve been stood up or cancelled on at the last minute 5 times by two friends. In the worst episode in this string of incidents, one of these people asked if she could stay at my house last night, then did not tell me when she was coming (I called her the night before and texted her the day of and only got wishy-washy answers) until I got a text at 10pm last night. Then she invited me, by text, to breakfast at her parent’s this morning at 7h30 am. I showed up only to stand in front of the door knocking for 10 minutes. She did not answer her phone.

I felt so small standing outside my friend’s house.

The worst part is that both of these people are struggling with some major issues. However, I decided in that moment that I deserve more from people who I count as friends. I walked home and wrote her a note that illustrated the pain I felt as a result of her actions and asked her not to contact me for a bit.

I was fired last week from my job, but because of the nature of my work I live in the same house as my boss and my first reaction was to run away directly from what would prove an embaressing situation. However, against these concerns I said I would stay on another week until my boss found someone else. Since I’m supposed to have the weekend off, I decided to go to London to stay with friends until I fly home Tuesday. I have always had trouble telling my various bosses difficult news. I start to sweat, my face turns red and I get a terrible sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach. So last night my boss asked me when I was leaving because she needed me to work Saturday. And then it happened: I said no!

I know it’s a small thing, but I feel like it’s a step in the right direction.

Recently I stood up for myself against 2 guys who had walked all over me in my past. One was an old boyfriend who had abused me and out of the blue told me he wanted to get back together and the other was a guy who I cared for deeply and stopped calling one day. Telling them both how I felt and that I wasn’t going to be a doormat was a wonderful experience.