Go on 25 dates with my husband in 2009

Went to a play in Thomaston Saturday night. J had expressed interest in seeing a former co-star in her current “play”. They were into probably the 3rd song before I realized that this version of ‘The Wedding Singer’ was a musical. (duh). The theater was an hour from our house, and started at 8. It was fun but I got overanalytical (just in my head I hope) about actors kissing each other and where the hell is romance if it’s okay to just discard it for kissing on stage? etc. I have issues. Evidently. We also had to rush to and from. We had a 13 year old babysitter on her first night looking after our kids and I felt great remorse for not getting her home before midnight. (She did just fine with the kids.)

But we’re trying to get these in more regularly. I realized that it’s cheaper than marriage counseling, not to mention more fun. duh.

We thought J might be working on the actual date, so we got my mil to sit for us and went out to the same diner for dinner. Had fun, and ate too much.

I really feel like we’re neglecting this goal, but we’re also looking at a lack of money, so going out for dinner/movie/etc is less appealing. I’m sure we should be able to come up with cheap ideas that are free, but the weather has been lousy, I get up early and am sleepy in the evenings and J is back into rehearsal tonight.

In theory I believe it’s worth the effort. I don’t feel that distant from J, but I would like to feel like we see each other better.

The other day I mentioned that I keep my email up at work in part because I’m lonely, especially when it gets slow at work, and he acknowledged that he hadn’t realized that.

We intended to have dessert, perhaps discuss the budget, browse a bookstore.

We managed to find a new restaurant claiming to be a ‘vegetarian enclave’ where I managed to only eat half the enormous dessert, skipped money talk (we were having such a nice time, I just couldn’t bring myself to talk about money) and then arrived in the bookstore 5 minutes before closing time. Ah well. It was time alone together.

Play is in its second weekend of three. Soon there will be only the usual complications.

OK, I said I was going to work at home Friday p.m. Actually, worked at home Sat. a.m. :) On Friday afternoon G. & I went to a matinee of I Love You, Man. It was great to start the weekend early! Esp. because I am taking off on a business trip Sunday afternoon. I saw my boss at the movie, heehee~!

We tried to find an Indian restaurant I’ve been told about with no luck. Ended up at a Mexican place in Middletown that we’re fond of.

Babysitter ogled my cleavage. Almost by accident. Like twice. He was obviously trying to keep his eyes on my face. (He’s taller than me, it must have been difficult.) I was very charmed. Both by the ogling and by the deliberate attempt not to. (I never notice these things, so it must have been pretty obvious.)

I made J take him home. No point in torturing him with embarrassment.

What a nice Saturday night!

Went up to Hartford (which we rarely do) and got lost and I didn’t yell and we had a good meal at a very cool restaurant, walked to the play and enjoyed ourselves. Awesome fun.

Left the kids with friends as the first cooperative child care night. The kids had a blast. We went out to dinner, used part of a lovely gift certificate and ate way too much. It was just really lovely to be out in the evening together.

Kids were in bed about 9 – two hours later than average. And up half an hour later in the morning. (sigh)

Worth it. Next date is Wednesday night (March 4) and we have my mil to sit for us while we go to a play (my Valentine’s day present to J) up in Hartford.

So as not to overwhelm the poor man, I sat J down and explained he was allowed ‘Casual’ dates. Like saying, “Hey, let’s get take out, eat on the couch after the kids are in bed and watch Hellboy 2!”

Which is what we just did. Then watched idol. And now I have to do my homework in the narrow window of opportunity before I need to go to bed so I can get up at the crack of dawn and bounce on the treadmill.