You need to remember that they know more than you! They have been through a lot and worked every day to help you. You need to say YES more and listen to them more. Don’t be 50 , 60 years old and have regrets!!!! x 1 day ago
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I have many old issues with my parents which I’m trying to consciously overcome. Part of the goal.
I had been doing good on this front these past few days when one of those came up today. I can see that my parents were still very hurt over that thing. I was patient with what they had to say and handled it with a lot of maturity – and a lot of lies. Yes, that was the bad part of it.
Lying to keep someone happy is a “bad” thing per se. But I really don’t mind the lying part. It seems to me too much of selfishness to impose all my thoughts and beliefs on them. Then again, these beliefs are something close to my heart, so I don’t want to give up on them. It’s a difficult issue to resolve but knowing that my parents are now the older side of middle age, it seems really selfish and useless to cause conflict for no reason except truth.
Truth and honesty are the epitome of things, I accept that. But hurting them and living with that hurt all the time and living with that hurt myself… all of it seems a bit too much just for the sake of honesty.
I’m not sure how I’ll resolve these issues with them but for now, a compromise like this seems the best way. 2 weeks ago
+ Taking time out to do some odd jobs around my parents’ house.
+ Aiming to appreciate them at least a few times when we talk.
+ Taking better care of myself because I know they are worried about me and I really don’t want them to have reasons to worry. 2 weeks ago
I think this is the most beautiful goal I have considered in a long while. 2 weeks ago
I’m going to do this by:
- Going to dinner when they call me
- Keeping my room clean
- Listening to what they say
- Keeping my bathroom clean
- Putting my washing out 4 months ago
I discover that I love my dad after he died , he is amazing dad God bless him ….I wished if I did many things to let him happy, now I do my best with my mother I don’t want to lost her (My God Bless her)
For every one can read what I’m writing now take car of your parents…... 9 months ago
I tried to do this so many times, now I gave that up, I feel sad but I cannot do anything about it. They are not good at parenting.
Like Leonard at the Big Bang Theory, I too am over my mother’s not caring about me. 12 months ago
I love my parents, don’t get me wrong. Our relationship could be better, just like everyone’s. I say I would do anything for them yet I refuse to do small tasks such as washing up or washing, I should think about that more often. I do over react, however now I have identified this hopefully I will be able to change it. I don’t appreciate my parents as much as I should. Sometimes I have quick bursts where I realize how amazing they are, but appreciation is more than that. The definition of appreciate is “to be thankful for,” and that is something I could definitely do more often. I should think about the enormity of what they do for me more often. 13 months ago