Get Healthy Self-Esteem

Accept myself as I am
· Take care of myself
· Remind myself of my positives
· Remember that there is nothing wrong with me. I am wonderful as I am. Other people’s opinions of me are none of my business. Their opinion has to do with them, not me.

Appreciate myself
· Go over my list of what I appreciate or what others appreciate about me
· Add to my list
· Take care of myself; show gratitude for who I am

Let go of old wounds and Anger

· As long as I hold on to the feelings someone else’s actions or words caused me I am only hurting myself.
· Process the feelings
Ø Place the feelings with who they belong. It is not my fault they wounded me. They saw the opportunity to hurt and they did. The blame and the anger should be placed on them.

Ø Let the anger out. Go to a batting cage or something similar so I can feel like I am expressing anger instead of just running away.

Not be ashamed or embarrassed of who I am
This isn’t really about faking it till you make it. This is about not feeling ashamed when I have done nothing wrong. “No one can make you feel inferior without your permission” This means I will walk and stand with confidence. Why should I not make eye contact with people? If they don’t feel comfortable with me or they think I am below them. That is on them.

Taking care of myself
I am a wonderful, beautiful woman with a lot to give and who wants to live. Why would I not want to nurture her? Taking care of myself is the root of my self-esteem. It affects every step. If I don’t appreciate myself enough to take care of myself what does that say about how I feel about myself. It makes it easier to accept myself, as I am because I appreciate who I am. I am thankful for what I have (a working body, mind and reflexes). Taking care of myself will make me less susceptible to feeling shame or embarrassment.

· In psychology, self-esteem reflects a person’s overall evaluation or appraisal of her or his own worth.
· How you feel about yourself – how you feel about who you are, the way you act, and how you look.
· The degree to which one values oneself. Also faith in oneself, pride, self-assurance, self-regard, self-respect, and vanity.
· A feeling of being pleased with, proud or confident of oneself.

I am beginning to realize that I am worth more than the way I have let others and myself treat me in the past. I see lots of things about me to appreciate. I feel better about the way I look, I have more pride in the things that I do. I still could use some work in being confident in myself. I don’t always look people directly in the eye. Just yesterday as I was walking down the street I was passing by people and I looked down to the sidewalk. I also need to work on not feeling bad when I tell others what I need and they are not pleased that they are the ones that will have to bend. I also feel that if that I may not be strong enough to say no to some situations that I really don’t want to be in just to be accepted. I am almost there.