act according to my beliefs

I am easily influenced by the “crowd” and seem to forget my basic beliefs and principles. I need to center my life around my beliefs and principles. To do this I need to figure out what I value, what I believe in, what I’m passionate about, who I am at the core…

Belief of the Month:

I believe that everyone is smart / intelligent in their own way. Intelligence and creativity seem to emerge naturally when a person is in his / her “element”

the only way…

To commit to them. the first one is honesty, I want to be honest, truly deeply openly honest, I don’t want to tell people the present they bought for me is just what I wanted I want to have the courage to say, thanks for the thought but really I don’t like that kind of thing or request in advance that people don’t buy me presents because I don’t like the whole present giving receiving thing. I’m not hppy telling white lies or being tricked into saying things I don’t mean because of the way someone asks the question which gives you the option either of telling someone you like this or telling them I hate them.
I don’t believe honesty is the best policy it certainly won’t help me get far in life but it would help me to like what I am doing and who I am.

I was talking to someone the other day about an argument that happened in our house which was so loud almost everyone heard it which is why I could bring it up as a topic of conversation. Afterwards I was thinkingand it occurred to me that I couldn’t remember the last time I shouted at someone. Now this isn’t that I have a bad memory or that I don’t get into disagreements with people, just that I explain my side of things and why I’m angry and don’t shout because that doesn’t get you anywhere. Some of you may be in the same position and good for you because I think quite a lot of people do resort to shouting and in fact I’m quite proud of this so I’m going to repeat it: “I can’t remember the last time I shouted”

In the last few years this has been a problem for me and I’ve picked up bad habits involving women which I went out with even though I didn’t like them that much so inevitably it ended badly. From now on I shall be honest with them and if I’m only interested in them for sex I should tell them that, and if I only want to be freinds I should tell them that as well. One of the problems is that Women often try to make men feel bad for being a man and for thinking like a man, when these are the feelings we have and they are natural and normal and nothing wrong with them and while men might pretend they want a relationship to get a woman in bed a woman might pretend they want sex in order to get a man into a relationship.