get engaged before I'm 25

isn’t always what’s best.

Yes, I got engaged before I was 25. No, I didn’t marry him. We’re not engaged anymore either. It turned out the situation wasn’t right. Today I’m grateful that the engagement I’m speaking of didn’t lead to marriage. Honestly, I cherish the experiences I’ve had as a result of not pursuing that previous relationship (and several since).

Rather than rushing down the aisle focused on personal “timelines”, it’s much better to focus on completeness, making discoveries that allow appreciation of the precious qualities of life. Expressing and attracting good is really more important than simply attracting a husband or wife. A relationship that will last and benefit both, as well as society, is not based on physical timelines, but on spirituality and like-mindedness. That can’t be rushed or planned. It simply happens when it’s right. The goal should be the same when it comes to children; it’s important to provide a stable and loving foundation, regardless of ‘when’ it happens. Marriage and children should be considered blessings – not material goals.

Think of the wonderful qualities you would appreciate in a partner, and in a good parent. Then do your best to express those qualities yourself. Wed yourself to Love, and you’ll find your true demonstration of marriage and family.

Let’s face it—who wants to be 50 and their kid be 20? It will make you feel old. I’d say get engaged by 30, but who knows how long the engagement could last? In addition, I don’t want to be 35 and popping out a baby. I think 24 is a decent number (one of my favorite numbers). Just think: when you’re in your teens, you get your license, you become legal, and you can say, proudly, “I’m a teenager now!” What comes next? If you’re in your twenties and nothing happens to you in your thirties it seems rather boring, well, at least it does to me.

I want to see that ring on my finger at most by 24.

If it doesn’t happen, it’s okay. I’m just saying. =)

Why such an odd number? Because I want to be married before I’m 30. I don’t want to be an “old mom”. I figure that if I’m engaged by 21 or 22 I can have three or four years with my husband before we have kids.