Become more outgoing

im trying, im shy,
but im getting better at this

im trying to become more outgoing
its not thAT i dont want to
im just so shy

My cousin had a little party last night. It was in a hotel suite-so, there were two sections-bedroom and living room. At first, I was a little standoffish basically staying in the bedroom area with my other cousins….but eventually ended up staying up and having pretty interesting conversations with everyone. I think half the battle is just being present. Kinda have to work up the nerve to go to the table and sit with people you don’t know. If you don’t feel like talking someone else will end up starting the conversation. We’re planning on going out next weekend.

I am working on this goal. It’s difficult to meet new people since I just moved here and am in the process of getting a job. I’ve only been to one event but look forward to hanging out with people who enjoy the same things I do. The group goes on hikes and just enjoys the island. We went parasailing-pretty cool.

It seems to get worse the older i get. I get so shy around people that i end up not being able to talk properly an i always think i come across to other people as being really dull and boring whic kind of stops me from doin the things that I want to do.

i am outgoing but only with my friends who are guys but when im with my friends who are girls i suddenly turn all shy say the wrong things because im not thinking clearly,especially if they’re really outgoing themselves and/or really pretty . Basically i want to be able to talk more, be more outgoing ,and stop having the two personalities.someone please tell me what to do

I used to be sooo shy in middle school and the first two years of high school. Now I’m talking more and feeling a little bit more confident :D

I wish i could be more outgoing, I feel like i’m such a boring person and I can never think of fun stuff to do. I wouldn’t even know where to begin… oppinions are welcome :)

Well, I don’t think this is something you can really have a concrete goal on, but I am much more outgoing than I was even a year ago. I used to feel so awkward about talking to people I didn’t know, but dealing with new faces on a daily basis kind of pushes you.

In my line of work, I have to interview people, and new students crop up from time to time. Because my line of work involves a large element of customer service, I have to get myself out and talk to students sitting in the lobby. What makes this even more interesting is that the students are at varying degrees of English language proficiency, so not only do I have to be social, I’ve got to be social in a way that allows the person I’m speaking to to understand.

It was really tough. But I have noticed over the months that as a result of being forced out there, I’ve opened up a lot more and I’m more willing to speak with people. I even enjoy it to some degree. :) Of course I still feel more comfortable talking with people I’m closer to, but talking with people that you may not be so familiar with is also kind of fun.

It seems like I’ve grown apart from all my friends. My life has become: work, kids, sleep, work, kids, sleep…and I have no social life. I feel like I’ve become very negative and envy my husband because he not only has a job he loves and is pasionate about, he gets to play softball and cards and golf and meet up with friends that are in town. My friends and I never get together anymore. It’s almost become a chore to do so and most of the time everyone cancels or whatever. I used to have a life I just don’t know what happened. I’m looking at joining some sort of group or committee and trying to make more friends but how do you do that at 30? How do you get social skills back? I’ve become very interverted and am exhausted all the time from work and putting on a happy face there.