41 and freaking out from old repressed Mom issues, I’ve enlisted a possible therapist for the first time. I’ve begun meds today and have the gift of twice-weekly sessions to combat the overwhelming guilty feelings left over from years of growing up with a very intelligent control freak mother. My spouse has dealt with my up-and-down cycles, and has for years suggested therapy. I am finally getting help after too many stalled attempts in order to save my self, my marriage and my two worthy children from my negative influence, hopefully while I’m still in the house. 6 years ago
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to get the right person I felt comfortable enough to open up with. Well worth it though!! 6 years ago
What a relief to finally have found somebody I can work with. I have my second appointment with her today and I’m actually looking forward to it. I found her in the KAP list from NCSF, and none of the “hot button” words I mentioned in the initial appointment seemed to faze her. She had me get a book called “The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook” that I hope will be helpful. Today we’ll discuss how to use it – though I have to discuss my mother with her soon, too. 7 years ago
it’s soooo difficult to find a good therapist, but i did! after several strange and potentially unethical experiences, i finally found my therapist match. don’t be afraid to ask your friends for referrals if you know they are seeing someone they like. also, when you have your first session, if there’s anything at all that bothers you about the therapist, don’t feel obligated to continue one with him/her. you can’t be open with someone you don’t fully trust. trust your instincts and you’ll find the right one. good luck! 8 years ago
I’ve been to treatment for an eating disorder. I’ve done follow-up. But lately I haven’t done anything and I’m falling. I’m going back to old habits and new habits that are in the same spectrum. I know they don’t work and I hate being so aware of it yet still turning to them. I’m looking for a therapist right now but I”m a little bit worried. I”m worried that I’m going to find someone but still not follow through with the various assignments that they suggest to help me. I guess I’m writing this for a little bit of support because right now I feel pretty lost. 8 years ago
After many years and tries, I found a great therapist.
Rachael Sawyer in Sacramento, CA is a fabulous therapist. She connects with her clients, listens well and doesn’t judge. She is very open minded and I feel very comfortable with her. Together, I hope we can do some wonderful work.
Email me if you are interested in her. 8 years ago
I have finished a lengthy course of analytic therapy and am so pleased with the results!!
I worked with a psychologist in NJ, not too far from NYC, who helped me make sweeping changes in my life. We worked on understanding how old patterns from earlier in our lives repeat themselves in present relationships. Through this work, I was able to become more present in life, working, loving and playing much better and fuller.
I would recommend doing this, as I have decided to pursue training to become a therapist myself in light of this experience.
If you want help, e-mail me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
David 8 years ago
it’s gonna be worth it. I had my first session today. I just have an intuitive sense
- a strong intuitive sense - that I have found the right person, that I was led to him, that he has the right method or the right insight, to teach me what I am now ready to learn. It seems as obvious as the sky being blue. I trust. 8 years ago
Wow. Just kinda did it. Found a guy who seemed to be saying stuff I really related to (on his profile on the web [part of Psychology Today’s website]), but on the phone he sounded a bit scattered or something. Oh well, we’ll see how this first meeting goes, next Weds. 8 years ago
And we are making me a better person for a few years now.
I can’t begin to explain how different i am, and how my life suddenly make sense, and how i am more peaceful, accepting of myself and others, WAY less competitive (it was a defining and a survival trait wrapped in a nasty package) and so on.
She understands me, and i respect her opinion a lot. those are the key needs that i had to have met. 9 years ago
1. Began writing again.
2. Finally grieved my father.
3. Married my true love in my 40s.
Totally worth it. Hold out for someone who understands you, and makes you grow. 9 years ago
I searched for years but quite simply, for most people, you will never find this. I spent a very long time trying to find someone who could help me with my problems, but in the end all I ever found was people willing to drug me up and make excuses for me. I never really found anyone who was willing to help me. It was always a matter of giving me a prescription for some new drug or writing a letter to my school or someone else explaining that “for medical reasons” i could not be expected to do what they asked of me. I’m not saying that all therapists are problematic, but the vast majority are solelist interested in preserving their own interests. I wish I had better news, that i could tell you there was one magic person out there who could help you, sorry, there isn’t, no matter what in your life is causing you to think you need professional help you are going to be better off solving it yourself. 9 years ago
Finding the right therapist is like dating. Not everyone’s a good match. But when you find the right one, amazing things can happen. 9 years ago
I need to find somebody who can handle alternative lifestyles. I don’t think many therapists mind homosexuality anymore, but talking about kink issues might give a few the wrong idea. I don’t need to be told that my kink is the root of all my problems, because I know it’s not. I need somebody who understands that. 9 years ago