improve my communication skills

I have a problem verbalising what is in my head. It often comes out like jibberish or i will stop half way through a sentence and go off on a massive tangent then forget what i was talking about. This happens mostly when i am feeling anxious or when i am not super confident in what i am saying so i suppose the key is to try and control my anxiety somehow..

At the moment, my idea is to watch interviews with people who are good at talking (like, for example, Angelina Jolie) on youtube. If I watch lots of good communication, I can then learn from it..

Plus.. I just like watching Angelina Jolie :) :)

- listen actively – shut down all sources that bother me and let the person talk. When they say everything they want, then I can give a suggestion (in case they are asking for one)
– when people explain to me a problem, I shouldn’t go and tell stories of my own about the issue, because in that way I am changing the attention to me. Listen to what they have to say!
– understand what is the need which is driving me to act this way and what is the need of the person talking to me. Then try to find the resolution between the two needs;
– in social situations, when trying to start a conversation – ask open questions using the question words: When, Where, What, Who, What and How;
– 4 of the most important things for good communication:
Empathy – really listen.
Respect for the other person
Being concrete – giving a direct, clear message, no vague ways to explain something. Go srtaight to the point.
Genuinness – be honest

One last thing – talking has to be mutual, not only be done from one person!

Today I made one of my first business calls. I had to agree on a project with a company. I prepared the whole day yesterday and I had sufficient information. Today morning I was prepared and knew what I have to say, I had a plan what to talk about. However, I was very nervous. When the time came I called and what happened then was not what I expected. So I got confused. I only talked – almost didn’t listen – I wanted to say what I had learned the previous day. I cared only about what I can get from this and I insisted on it. I was insisting so much that I didn’t see the other opportunities that I could suggest to that company. I didn’t see the big picture. Here is what I am not happy with and I want to change:
– improve my communication with people in general – I tend not to be very talkative and that gets me confused when I have to talk business too;
– relax in the conversation and try to see the big picture and respond clearly;

The one main thing that has really hindered me in this area has been my shyness. I still have days when I’m more quiet than others, but for whatever reason, I almost feel like a different person a lot of the time nowadays, lol. I’m not so shy, and find that it is a lot easier for me to talk to people than it used to be. Not sure really what changed, but that’s ok, lol :)

hey how can I improve my English? Plz tell me.

A couple of days ago I sent off for a book from amazon called ‘101 ways to improve your communication skills’. It’s probably going to arrive tomorrow, I can’t wait!

I’ve read lots of positive reviews for this book, and it was the first one that came up on google when I searched for books on communication skills, so I’m hoping it’s going to be a help in achieving this goal!

I just realize that knowledge or academic achievement itself are not enough to survive in this life. Friend are always mark me as a book worm person, even though I don’t think that was true. Every time people spoke or chatting, I just like to stay as a listener. I like to just listen and talk less. That is who I am. But then, when i already graduated, this kind of personality make me crucial in some cases. Especially when I have to deal with real stranger world. I realize that silent wouldn’t help much. Its okay for listening, but it is important to get involve in a group of communication.

sfff

I want to be able to communicate my ideas to others. Understand and break down information as I receive any type on communication form others.