be a positive person

how do you even start this??

I think this is something that constantly needs work.. or not work per say but i don’t think its something that can be “achieved” because everyone can always improve on it and adapt it to new situation in their lives so this is more a life long goal for me to live in a positive way

I have fantasies about getting into tifts with people. Can anyone relate? It’s like, I think about a bad situation, and then get worked up about it. And it never even happened! It’s a little bit crazy. I guess it’s like preparing for the worst, but it seems like you’re only focusing on the negative if you prepare for the worst.

So, as a result of this conflict fantasy, I start to have negative thoughts about the person I imagine I am arguing with which I probably carry vibes of when I see the person. So, now I’m giving bad vibes to someone and they’ll probably not like me for it.

It’s a bit like a self fulfilling prophecy.

I must work on attractive thinking. I’m not going to get into a tift!! We can all get along!!

Rainbows
Bunnies
Smiley faces

I think I’ve made some progress on this goal over the past few years, but I’ve kind of let that slide over the past few months. I think somewhere I lost my grounding and now that I’ve been without a job or a real life for a few months it’s starting to get depressing and lower my confidence a bit.

I think a positive self image is a really important part of being a positive person and I think the more I achieve my goals the more positive my self image will become.

Probably a good idea is to break down all the things a positive person would do and add those goals to my list as well. That way it will seem like I’m doing a lot more things, and hence improve my confidence levels. I think I probably already have some things on my list that will help me be more positive, like meditating everyday.

I believe everyone gives off an energy and this energy affects the moods and energies of those around you. I want my energy to be full of life and love.

I can be very critical of others and feel justified because I am just as hard on myself, but ultimately rigid perfectionism is exhausting. I wish I was that easygoing person who everyone wants to be around. I want to look on the bright side of things and stop treating every minor setback as the world’s greatest catastrophe. But, more than anything else I would love to get just one good night of sleep!

As a child, I was extremely happy. Never cried, giggled all the time. Very well behaved and well mannered. Smiley all the time…
When I began to see all of the troubles in my life having to do with my father, I became more and more negative on the inside…but I didn’t let that change my facade. That was around age 10-11.

When I hit thirteen, all hell broke loose. I became negative with everything I ever did. I became depressed. Rarely, rarely happy.

Freshmen year of high school, I met my current boyfriend and I was happy and positive all of the time. Had a huge fight 1 year after we met, and it set me back to the negativity. Back to all the old memories that make me negative in the first place.

Since then (almost 3 years ago), I’ve been trying to be the happy/positive me. I need to stop being to pessimistic. So negative. So angry.

I want to be happy!

... is deceivingly difficult! It always seems easy to find something positive in every situation, but it’s hard to focus on it and not let the negative things overwhelm and control your feelings.

But that would be turning traitor to my very (dark) soul. However, I have managed to control my negativity and griping to a large extent and develop a more grateful and hopeful outlook on my life.

Everyday I try to do something nice, even if it seems small and insignifigant. It gets easier and easier to be who I really am. A nice person. I am finally evolving back to the real me. It feels great!

I’ve been the one who always says “everything happens for a reason” and I truly believe that. You have to think positive when you know that to be so.
It might also help to have the right blood type.
Mine is: B-POSITIVE!! Yeah, for real .. .. .. ..