be nice to myself

I realized I have a bit of an addiction to self-help books. I’m always searching for ways to make myself ‘better’ (better-looking, a better cook, better at work, a better friend, etc etc). But in doing that, I’m telling myself that right now, I’m not good enough. That there’s something wrong with me that needs to be fixed. I’m tired of that constant striving. I’m fine as I am, dammit.

I won’t go as far as giving up or deleting my goals, but I definitely won’t be working very hard on most of them for a while.

You can choose to be a victim, or you can choose to love yourself and be happy, life is too short to be sad all the time…smiling breeds positive thoughts, attracts positive thinking…!
--from a friend on 43things

Not judging others only by appearances. I have got this from an article I read this afternoon. A young man who dressed like a hippy has helped a man whose car was out of oil by an extremely meaningful and romantic way in paying $20 to the man. The “hippy” not only helped the man by buying him a barrel of oil, but also gave him missions for passing $20 to others who need it.

Isn’t it beautiful?

Today I have read several articles about love and gratitude. Positive terms: sunny, strong,optimistic about life.
This kind of attitude is extremely important for it not only benefits ourselves but also does good to others.
Being positive is extremely important for you can just have another world, thinking everything in another light, giving you surprises everyday or any other day in your life.

Dear my friend,
I’m very sorry to tell you that I will leave you.
Not because you are not good, not excellent, or something else.
But I feel uncomfortable when I’m with you.

It’s quite unpleasant,but I have to face it.

I’m not immoral.and I’m not God. There really is a God in charge of the difficult matters of others.and I can say sorry if I can’t help in others’trouble.

The point is that I’m not happy.

I should be responsible for this.
It is my duty to take care of myself and be nice to myself.

I have now understood that this is life.
I have been in a new age with new adventures.
I have now understood that if fewer people walk on one road, it may be a little difficult for me to walk on it too.
It is about choice.
It is about giving up.
It is about saying goodbye.
It is about saying goodbye to the unpleasant earlier days.
Maybe I’m immoral,but I really have to think what a person I want to find.

I know what to do.
I maybe really undertake the business that I will say goodbye to him.
I will even give others the image that I dump him.
Yes.
But now, I have realized that it’s nothing to be connected with morality.
The person I find is the man I will spend my whole life with.
I feel a little comfortable now. But I don’t know why I must find a tall man to feel better about myself.

That’s really interesting.

yes, I have a boyfriend who is shorter than I. I can’t deny that I don’t feel comfortable when I was with him. That’s true.

But for a long time, I want to persuade myself that I can accept him.
But now, I still can’t go out of low image of myself.
That’s true.

If I had once made a mistake, I should correct it and change into the new path.

Yes, it was wrong in several ways and it may be the source of all the problems I have experienced.

Marrying a good person is one of the big stones in my life. I can understand now why I was always in conflict. I can now laugh and face myself and my previous thoughts.

I have realized that I may really look down upon myself before.

Yes, I can understand myself and I now know how to love myself.

I get the point now.