not criticize, condemn or complain

Ok, well I’ve forgotten a little about this particular goal- But I’m taking it up again because I think it’s really important that I do this. I criticize WAY too much and I’m generally pretty negative. I dont know why that is, perhaps it’s a coping mechanism. I just know that I need for it to stop because I do not want to pass on this trait of mine to any children I might have.

well here it is folks, I am a bitch- there is no way around it. have not been able to just be positive. Why not? because I have self esteem problems and it makes me want to make negative comments about people. there it is- simple as 1-2-3.

Will give myself 1 month to accomplish this goal. will write on this website every day to remind myself of this goal. will also me VERY conscious about what i say. for example, have been criticizing a dinner that someone has been organizing. there is no need for this. the event will be fun…

I slipped off the wagon this week. As soon as I stopped writing in entries, i started slipping back in my old negative ways. So, the lesson in all this is that I have to keep writing to continue encouraging myself. Even if no one reads these entries, they are still helpful.

So my goal today is to go to work and go to class without uttering a negative thing.

I think that i am slowly becoming more aware of what i am saying. everytime i open my mouth, i think long and hard before i say anything. i occasionally say something i regret but I much more conscious of what i say. its a step in the right direction!

So far so good-i made a slightly negative comment about a situation but other than that, i have been positive about people which is my main goal. I just have to keep focused and be aware of the situations around me and the people around me.

I think what we (and i) need to remember is that noone likes to be criticized or bad mouthed- so why would I do it to someone? some people this it is easy to stop saying things, but i think that sometimes we dont realize what we are saying or how i can affect someone else. it’s not as easy as it seems- the first step is being conscious of our actions (in everything that we do)- be more aware of our bodys and our words.

another day- i just cant help myself from making comments about people. As soon as i realize that i’m doing, i stop but i forget and that’s when i get myself into trouble. i think criticizing is a defense mechanism and because i sometimes feel very self conscious and thats when i make comments about other people.

I learned a very valuable lesson today- if I’m going to be controversial and make comments, i have to accept that they will likely piss some people off. My goal is now to say nothing negative for one whole day. see what happens then!

Honestly, this seems like such a great thing- i have been doing alot of complaining and whining lately and i wish i could somehow take it back. sometimes i think i am right but often times i think I’m just being like my mother (eek).

I want to be much much much more conscious about what i say to people and remember that when i was young and my mother criticized me, it made me feel horrible.

I think i just need to learn to keep my big mouth shut and not have an opinion about everything. this is going to be a hard one but i will go about it one day at a time!