date an older man

i will tell you letter.

i am looking for my own love, how will find the reall one?

I’m not sure if you’d call it dating, but at the moment I’m spending time with a guy that’s 14 years my senior (I’m 17). I’ve always been attracted to older men. Knowing that I can connect with a person that’s wiser and more worldly is the biggest turn on. I love being physically intimate with him and just having a good time, and at the moment that’s all I want. It’s great.

My epic love story! hehe
I’m 22 and my boyfriend is 34 in June. We met after my tyre burst outside the mechanic joint he worked at. When I came to pick up the repaired tyre he raced across the floor to serve me and for the first time in my life I wanted to melt into a total stranger. I just wanted to know him so much. Mind you, this is after I’d been set on staying single after having lost all faith in love, relationships and the like. I had been single for ages, was loving it and wasn’t looking for anyone. I had no idea how old he was, but I was guessing maximum 25. Because my car was generally stuffing up all over he told me he does work from home and it would be a lot cheaper. It took a lot of guts for me to call and say my exhaust needed fixing, which really wasn’t urgent and was really just an excuse. From this stemmed regular visits where he would look over my car for 15 minutes then we’d sit outside for hours just chatting. I can honestly say I fell in love with him in those first few days. I was infatuated. Mind you, he’s not rich, and that’s the last thing I care about. I’m a student and we struggle sometimes, but one day we’ll reap the rewards. We’re not perfect: we argue, we’re both immature and silly. When I dated guys my age I was left puilling my hair out after putting up with them talking themselves up like they were so super great when they were just kids, like me! Whereas with my current boyfriend, there was none of that – we were just ‘real.’ I’ll never forget the night we went for a drive, had a great night then as we were driving home I realised he was getting all anxious and nervey. Finally he said, “do you know how old I am?!” and after all our chats and time spent together I wouldn’t have cared if he was 100, so I laughed and admitted that no, I didn’t know. He said “I’m 34 this year!” I told him I was 21, as I was at the time, then we talked about how it was’t an issue as we both felt like we had really ‘clicked’ for the first time in our lives. My family loves him, his family loves me. We have a lot going for us. He’s sexy, still a boy, we can laugh together, support each other, and man, he’s a great lover. I’ve gone from being the ultimate single-and-loving-it girl to being completely, 100% devoted, committed, in love and with bright prospects for the future. Now I want marriage and kids one day. Despite us being stubborn and childish at times, there is np denying we are soulmates. Moral of the story is: for the first time in my life I went with my instinct and followed my heart, not my head. And I will forever be thankful that I did so, because despited the differences, we were just meant to be! And I guess that’s why my tyre burst right outside his work! hehe

I date a man fifteen years older… here is the trick… me:23 he:38. Never married and no kids… him nor me. I love my relationship! Healthiest one I have ever been involved in. Before you judge, I have been in 3 monogamous (on my part @ least) long term relationships (high school boyfriend (3.5 years), college boyfriend (3.5 years), and now my old ass real life boyfriend (7 months)! Nonetheless… the question that plagues my mind consistently is WHY has this man not been married and WHY no kids? He is amazingly good to me and women in general. He thinks he would make a great dad… he tells me. He is soooo sexy! Not that like ‘oh I love him so he is sexy’ kind of sexy but the ‘I have to beat women off with a motherfucking baseball bat when we go out to clubs’ kind of sexy. I can’t help (even after knowing him for four years) but wonder if there is something wrong with my man that I just haven’t learned about yet…
Anywho… bottom line is that we keep each other endlessly satisfied and that is all that matters friends…

I am 27 going on 28 and I am engaged to a man who is 53. My friends were NOT supportive at first and it really hurt me. My family is still not supportive. But we are so happy. His family is happy. He really is my soul mate. He is funny, a great lover, has a great job, and takes care of me. He’s been married once and has grown children. I’ve met them and they love me. I don’t feel an age difference at all with him. All the other men…excuse me…boys I’ve dated have been awful. I even dated an immature older man.I don’t have daddy issues nor am I using him for money. We are planning marriage and a family. Try it. You may be happy, too.

This year, I will turn 30. The love of my life will turn 50 at the end of the same month. We have been together for nearly three years, and I honestly would not be complete without him now. Before him, I never wanted for love; I have always found the most interesting people to become involved with. For so long, I went from relationship to relationship, looking for something and not knowing what it was…I almost got married twice, but just the thought of a long-term commitment made my stomach turn and my feet want to run. These guys were always my age or younger; older men never really attracted my attention. Then, I met this cute, fun older guy – he is the drummer in the band I play bass for on weekends – and we decided to casually date outside our gigs. No pressure, no fronts, no impossible expectations…it has been such a simple friendship. Neither of us ever expected it to go so far, but somewhere along the way, we fell in love. Some folks may think that it’s not right, but considering the current divorce rate and how many people in the world are married to misery that may or may not be closer to their own age, we are more than thankful to be a part of the lucky bunch.

I know I’m going to get plenty of judgement and hate about this but I am 20 years old, dating a 40 year old man. He pays me $500 a week with presents. I am absolutely repulsed when he kisses me. We haven’t done anything sexual, yet. He pays me with company cash and everyone I know thinks that I work for him. THAT is my older man… whore.

When I was 18 I dated a man who was 38. He TOLD me his was 29 which was believable because he didn’t look old enough to be my dad gross! I only dated him for 3 months before I found out he was married, had two babies and was broke as heck. I felt horrible! I know it wasn’t MY fault but still it was sickening to think that for three months I was ‘the other woman.’ Luckily after him I met my husband who is only two years older than I am and he said he wished he knew I was dating the other guy because he knew he was a scum bag. Soooo all in all it was a really bad experience and now he is dating another 18 year old who coincidentally looks JUST like me. I really hope his wife finds out because he is such a dirt bag!

Not MUCH older… no more than maybe… ten years. I don’t want to date someone my dad’s age. Just someone who’s a bit older. Just to see what it’s all about.
Of course, he would also have to be not skanky and not have children… which is likely to prove infinitely more difficult.