find a new best friend

I made a huge huge change in my life and moved away from my family and friends to be with the love of my life. I know this was a great decision, but I don’t have anyone here besides him and it’s starting to wear on me. I need a new best friend, a female one. I want to go shopping, to lunch, go for walks, go to the gym…. I want to do things that you would do with a best friend, because right now I do these things on my own.

I recently “broke-up” with my best friend. We have been close for the past 15 years but it has always been a rocky relationship. It was more give then take for me. She is full of drama on a daily basis and treats everyone as if they were beneath her. I never felt treated this way until the last two years. We started having spats and then periods where we wouldn’t talk for a month or two. The spats always started with her perceiving I had done something to her (i.e., talking about her to people, thinking I had not been truthful about something/situation, not caring enough about her needs, etc.), she would realize she was in the wrong and then call and apologize. Of course the call would eventually center around why SHE felt the way she did and I would have to apologize also before we could move on. I couldn’t take it any more.

I don’t know if I have lost a good friend or cut some dead weight out of my life. My last words were that I was tired of being someone’s punching bag.

The most recent incident is too long to go into but involved money—not even from her but from another source. The fact that she had to be involved and then became so irrational about it is just mind-blowing. So, I have cut my ties with her and her family.

Thus, begins a new chapter. Do I really need a best friend? I have a great relationship with my husband and plenty of other great friends, some of which I am very open with and share quite a bit of my life with. I just don’t think I will ever let anyone be that close again.

I NEED I NEW BFF

Hello, my name is Venke. I’m 20 years old and I’m from Sweden.
I uesd to have a best friend for a long time, but six months ago we split our ways. I am the type of person who appreciates time alone, but I need someone special to be able to turn to and also have fun with. And it can’t be anybody because I’m really picky.

-It has to be a female
-She has to have a humble persona
-She dares to stand out of the crowd and be herself
-She is joyful and funny and a happy soul
-She has got a unique and exciting look and style
-She has got a good and healthy body shape
-She loves being creative
-She likes experimental music
-She is not afraid of trying new and crazy things
-She would travel around the world with me
-She has got high hopes, dreams and goals in her life

Could this be you? -Contact me through Venke.k.c@hotmail.com

I’ve not been a ‘best friend’ kind of person, at least not since my youth.

But have developed a friendship with an acquaintance a couple of years ago which has developed into a very positive, supportive and encouraging sort of companionship.

It’s cool…

I want to move to London UK and bocome a socialite. London’s latest IT GIRL, and I am looking for a new female best friend in London. Someone to hit the red carpet with me. If you’re a woman living in London who has this same goal, we should talk!
www.myspace.com/londonitgirl

It’s really not the same. Never will be. If I remove it as a goal, it may be more likely to happen on its own probably. Ah well, c’est la vie.

I had one in my late teens and twenties – then she died of cancer. Now that I’m in my late thirties, married with children and just so very busy that is the same busy-ness other women have, we just don’t have the time to bond like we used to. I do have a few friends, but it really isn’t the same. There isn’t someone I call when I’m feeling low or jazzed about something, someone to share things with. I keep hoping I’ll meet someone new and just click- that’s actually how it happened with my old friend, so I am still very hopeful!

We met when we were five; We both lived on 2nd. Street..Like peas & carrots..Would dress the same, talk the same, get into trouble for the same things..WE were long-lost sisters…She was going to get married and live in California, and I was going to get married and live in Florida! Ironically…SHE ended up married, and living in FL. Me? I stayed behind, and eventually got married too…When you live in two different states, and have your own family to take care of, it’s difficult to keep in touch..I’ve been “Best” friendless ever since…I can barely even make “somewhat good” friends with anyone; Moved around too much…

I want to stay grounded (for my kids’sake), and call a place home..Maybe, just MAYBE, there’s another lost, friendless mom in my neighborhood, who wishes she had a “best friend” too..Someone to share her utmost private secrets with, someone she can trust wholeheartedly, someone to go shopping with, share clothes with, have “play-dates” with our kids…Maybe someday…