I always get really defensive. With my husband, my friends, my coworkers – everyone. I’m aware that I do it, I just don’t know how to stop.
How to stop being so defensive
How I did it: you just have to be consciously aware of how things people say make you feel and then chose to look at what people said and think about how they meant for it to come out.
Lessons & tips: patience is key
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Today is the day that I have realized that I need to stop being so defensive. I have realized that being too defensive affects my friendships and relationships and could potentially ruin future relationships, my husband?
They’ll tell me something or they’ll mention something, and suddenly I’m all over it. I may not say it all out loud (I’m trying really really hard) but I’ll argue with them and feel like… I dunno at the time, I feel like I know better than they do… maybe it’s more a superiority complex? what do you think? anyhoo, I don’t like it.
I hate this about myself. Anytime anyone challenges me, I automatically get defensive. I take everything to heart. I need to fix this SOON because nursing school is taking me into some situations where I’m going to be challenged a lot and I have to learn to take it with a little more grace.



