have a better relationship with my brother

My brother and I have never been close, but then again, we don’t have a close family. When we were younger it was just the two of us and I had the mindset that since I was older (by more than 5 years), I had to control him. We fought a lot and by highschool (for him) we really didn’t speak anymore.

He then got into a lot of trouble, I didn’t trust him (to the point I didn’t even want him to know where I lived), and more than 5 years later, it does seem that he’s trying to turn his life around.

We speak to each other occasionaly. We don’t fight, argue and I don’t tell him what to do. I think this helps because he’s constantly fighting with my dad and it’s always bad.

We haven’t spoken in about a month and that’s ok with me. I only speak with my mom probably once every couple of weeks and that’s a great relationship for us.

So, what I want to happen is this:

*My brother needs to move out of my parents home.
*Get a job that he can be happy about.
*Get counseling to help him work our parent issues.
*Develop a better relationship with him so that he feels comfortable talking to me, visiting, being an uncle, brother-in-law, etc.

I miss not having that type of relationship with him. I don’t want us to get older and get to the point where we haven’t spoken in years.

I’m going to try…

We have been in more contact with one another over the years. He gave me away at my wedding, but I have not seen him since the day. About 4 years ago. Still, this is an improvement and I hope it gets better.

Andrew has always been my pride and joy and my best friend. I am glad that after a few years of obstacles, we have overcome them and are closer than ever! I love my little brother so much! And he is going to be a great uncle to his nephew, who will share his name.

Now that he has found out he is becoming an uncle for the first time, my brother and I have become so much closer. We call each other at elast once a week (if not more) and talk for long periods of time. It is so wonderful to have a close relationship with him again!

My brother and I are amazingly close, but we dont really talk to each other that often about our lives and what’s going on. I don’t want to have the relationships that my parents have with their siblings with my brother when I’m older. I should make steps to change that. Start emailing him more when I’m not home. I’m going home this weekend so I will be around him and the rest of my family so that will be nice and relaxing for me. A break from college-life is always needed. :)

I guess I was the spoiled brat and my older brother was giving nothing. I got the car, the computer, and the later curfew. We are 5 years apart, so he was already gone when I started high school, but I think it bothers him. When we were kids, I used to always bug him, then he would punch me, and I would run and tell my mom. She would ground him and I would revel in it. I wasn’t a bad kid, but in hindsight, I could have been nicer to him. Now days, we speak once a year and see each other every 2 or 3 years. I would like to have a better relationship with him. He’s the best.

Although admittedly it was mostly me being an elder brother jerk. Once I left to go to uni, things got a lot better, thankfully.

He’s definitely the family member I’m closest too, and that pleases me, but I could probably still do better and talk to him more often.