Such a simple thing for others, but for me… each time I ask for something, I feel like I will lose the love of the people I am asking things from. I feel like I deserve less love. So I don’t ask.
In the same time, I can’t stop being frustranted and angry for not receiving what I want, for people not reading my mind, not giving without my asking.
Oooh. 3 months ago
That counts. 14 months ago
Secret goal! Too scary to share. 14 months ago
I’m terrified, perhaps unjustly, of becoming a stereotype of the nagging girlfriend. I almost never ask my boyfriend to do chore or things around the house, especially more than once, because I don’t want to nag. I don’t know what to do in the tricky gray area, where maybe he genuinely forgot and needs a reminder, rather than he decided to do something later or not at all.
Weeks ago he said he’d take my broken sunglasses to the eyeglasses repair shop near our house (They are only open while I’m at work). He hasn’t. It’s midsummer and I haven’t had my own sunglasses in 4 weeks and I’m going on a business trip to the desert next week. Today I finally got the nerve to remind him about it and he just said “ok” but now I’m all nervous that he’s going to be grumpy about it later. I’m overly worried about the sunglasses thing becuase if he is grumpy about it I’m not sure I can restrain my own grumpiness. I’ve been borrowing his old sunglasses all this time. I can just imagine him saying that mine are not urgent because I can wear his. They’re darker than I prefer and too big for me. Meanwhile, the reason he has these spare sunglasses is because he spent 3 Sundays dragging me to every Sunglasses hut, Oakley store and sporting goods shop in town trying to get his new sunglasses, a particular model, with particular lens coatings, in a particular color and particular lens color. His own preferred sunglass choices are so important that we both have to spend countless hours shopping and discussing them, but I am supposed to be satisfied with his cast-offs rather than my own choice because he can’t be bothered to walk 1/2 a mile and wait an hour.
Side note: See what I did there. This is directly related to a few of my other goals. Stop taking things personally (he didn’t forget just to make me wear uncomfortable glasses). Don’t make assumptions (I’m assuming he’s going to be grumpy and think I’m a nag when I really don’t know if that’s the case). 22 months ago
Three things I’d like are: to weigh 149 lbs, have a steady boyfriend and have sex regularly. Not too much to ask for, I don’t think. 2 years ago
At my annual goals setting meeting I announced that my biggest goal is to be more pro-active about demanding better direction and information in writing from my project managers. I’m pretty sure my mentor wasn’t expecting that. But it is necessary. 2 years ago