be a nicer person

I guess i’ve believed that everyone is entitled to their own opinion. Unfortunately, like a lot of my other beliefs i don’t exactly act accordingly. I can be rude, harsh and uncalled for. Instead of snapping at people when i don’t agree with them, I’m gonna learn to accept it. Okay, I don’t agree with you, and you don’t agree with me. Let’s agree to disagree.

here’s to being a nicer person! :)

hey I’ve finally found something that really helps with this.

Mindfulness. Anyone can learn how to do this. Look it up on google if you want to know more.

I concentrate on things to help me be more mindful.
right thought
right speech
right behaviour

I also need to add right effort but that’s for a slightly different purpose.

Its hard to be a really nice person when you lack sleep.

Not that this makes me not nice, it just means I am too seedy to make much effort.

I have recently discovered that I am not nice when I am depressed. A psychologist mentioned to me that when depressed, some people get teary, while others get irritable and angry. I have never heard this before. Its so simple.

go by the golden rule.
Do onto others as you would like to be treated.
Perfect but simple life reasoning.

I read an interesting article about this the other day.

My stress signs are:

1. responding aggressively to a minor criticism
2. doing things in a rush
3. scattered thinking.

After all the reading I’ve done on PD things, it was nice to come across this list in an article in a magazine that ordinarily I would scorn. The list, signs of stress was much longer, but these were the three that affect me, or at least I noticed these lately, although I do think they are typical of me.

I am under stress at the moment and it’s #3 that is the biggest problem. It makes you stupid.

speaks for itself really

I’m not sure why I’m so mean, but it’s not good. I would much rather have a happy marriage and positive atmosphere than get angry easily and get into arguments. It probably doesn’t seem that way though. It’s worth the effort to try, without a doubt.

I’m not quite there yet, but hey, I’m on my way… my health is much better and so is my attitude towards life :-)

The more I look at this goal, the more I think it’s a little off the mark. Nice is so relative and general. Overall, I’m nice. I do care about people’s welfare, I’m mostly polite and I try to help folks who need it. Hell, I ran a program for the disabled. I’ve taught children. Mean people don’t really do that stuff.

But day to day… people drive me nuts. They’re rude and stupid and infringe on my personal space. lol. And when I have to interact with these people I respond with immediate anger and irritation and usually vocalize it. That’s the part I want to control a bit better. Mostly because I think it makes me look bad… I figure someone might recognize me as ‘that bitchy chick’. I don’t know. I don’t really want that rep.

But, now I’m more concerned that I care so much how I appear to others. Ha. So I’m going to change this goal to something like… Accept myself even though I’m obnoxious. Or, Be more tolerant of dipshits.

And anyway, since I quit working my day job I am ‘nicer’. My stress level really contributes to my low bullshit tolerance.

be nicer