be content being single

I read a quote one time that said that there is something special about being single. ”... You aren’t waiting just for the sake of waiting; you are waiting for someone.” That puts things into SUCH a different perspective!

Joshua Harris wrote, “When we define our happiness by some point in the future, it will never arrive. We’ll keep waiting until tomorrow. If we allow impatience to govern us, we will miss the gift of the moment. We’ll arrive at that point in time that we expected to provide fulfillment and find it lacking.” I don’t want to live my life looking forward to dating and marriage while being unhappy with my singleness now; I really will miss the joy of the present. I don’t want to spend my time wishing that I was in a relationship and being depressed and lonely; I have incredible friends and no pressure of a relationship currently – so I am going to be content being single and wait for God’s timing for anything else.

Well, with every lame-o date I go on, I become more and more content with my single status. When I hear friends complain of high-maintenance relationships, I think, “I don’t have time for that nonsense—maybe I’m better off alone for the time being.” But maybe that’s also because I’m kind of low-maintenance. I would like to meet that one special person I feel totally at home with, but I’m okay with just being by myself and making new friends and that sort of thing. It’s new and different and it’s going just fine. Although it would be nice to have a really fantastic date for a change :)

I had the realization a few weeks ago, that if I can indeed maintain all of the wonderful friendships I have right now, I could be single forever. I’m not saying it is my deep desire to remain single forever, but it sure is easier with great friends. I am richly blessed with true friends.